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【一切的失敗和不足，都是最美好的安排】
All Failures & Lacks Are The Best Things to Happen to Us

三個月前，收到來自台灣客人的這封電郵時，開心和心酸交織著在心裡。

開心，因為這是一年前通過Zoom視訊的客人。他居然在我們看八字的一週年，特地寫了封感謝函給我，真有心！

心酸，因為他寫在電郵裡的低落心情，我完完全全明白。

他的經歷，是我的曾經。我當初也是很難，很久才能走出來。

有一回，我為一位芳華正茂的女子批八字時，她很用心的寫下我說的話。

論寫筆記的完整，她是我客人當中的佼佼者。

寫到一半，我注意到她的右手開始微微顫抖。我以為是空調的風太大了，冷到她，便問她要不要披巾。

她說，是她的焦慮症發作。

「我沒在兇你，也沒對你嚴厲，你為何突然焦慮？」

「我.....打從今年疫情打亂了我的計畫，我就一直很焦慮。我覺得我很沒用，同學們都前進了，只有我現在什麼都不是，亂糟糟的。我就一直很緊張，萬一我一直都是這樣，怎麼辦？」

說著，她眼眶一紅，眼淚像斷了線的珍珠鏈似的灑下來。

我的媽呀！是我的樣子長得很催淚，還是我的聲音聽起來很虐心？怎麼客人，不分男女老少，東南西北，看到我好像都很容易哭？

我抓起一張紙巾遞給她。

「所以，我不是來了嗎？你來找我，就是要問個明路，而你很幸運那麼快就看到我啦！你看你的筆記寫得多工整，多齊全。我很多客人都不如你啊！我今天的工作，就是來給你答案的。我沒有把握，也不會接你這份差事。我接了，就代表還可以補救。你照著我的指示去做，一定柳暗花明又一村。」

又另一回，一位四十多歲的媽媽請我看兒子的八字。

我在批著八字時，這位媽媽點頭認同，然後就聲淚俱下。

我轉頭看著她沈默不語的先生。我說錯了什麼嗎？太太哭成淚人，你怎麼連紙巾也不拿給她啊？

「我是個沒有用的母親，很不稱職的母親。我沒有辦法教好孩子。我很愛他，可是很多時候我都不知道要怎麼做，我就會對他發脾氣，說狠話，過後我又後悔。我忍下來，可是後來還是會一樣！」

我沒打斷她，等她的哭聲逐漸小聲後，我柔柔的說：「我來啦！我坐在你前面了。你已經看到我，就是有辦法了。你知道你自己不行，會去找辦法，就代表你願意去學習做個好媽媽啊！」

我把紙巾遞給她，再說：「不要哭了，要不然，別人看了以為是我不要借你錢，才把你弄得那麼傷心。」

曾幾何時，我們都會以外在所擁有的，來定義自己的人生是否值得自己喜歡。

從原生家庭、樣貌、健康、身型、智力、天賦等，到後來的學歷、友情、事業、財富、婚姻、子女......

哪一樣沒有，而偏偏是我們最想要的，我們就會認定自己失敗的一塌糊塗。

我認為這就是普通教育最大的問題所在。父母老師都是這樣把我們「分門別類」的。值不值得父母疼愛或向親朋戚友炫耀，也離不開那幾點。

久而久之，我們也只會以「成功」來定義自己是否有價值，甚至來衡量自己是否有活下去的勇氣。

我比較喜歡佛法的定義。我們每個人都是一尊佛，六道眾生皆有佛性，只因一時的迷，因此墮落在苦輪不停的輪迴。

可正因為我們有佛性，我們都有無窮無盡的可能。每個人的內在有著很強大的力量，等著我們遇到明師後，去發掘、探索和了解。

而這天生俱來的力量，就是你改命立命的資本。

如果人生順風順水，我們永遠不會想要出離，誤把人間當極樂，所以一定要有苦，我們才會意識到，為什麼我們會在這鬼地方？要怎麼樣才可以離開這鬼地方去到極樂？

反過來，我們都應該感恩自己遇到的挫折，因為從這些苦中，我們才能生出智慧。

沒有一個八字是完美的。一切的失敗和不足，都是最美好的安排，如此你才會有出離心，返本歸源。

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3 months ago, when I received this email from my Taiwan client, there was this feeling of bittersweetness.

I was happy because this was the client I did a Zoom consultation last June. He sent me this email on the one-year anniversary date of our Zoom call, to express his gratitude. How sweet!

On the other hand, I could relate to the emotional turmoil he felt at that point in his life.

His experience was my past. It also took me a very long time to walk out from my gloominess.

Once, I analysed the Bazi of a very young lady. She was meticulously jotting down notes as I spoke.

Her detailed note-taking skills easily took the top place among my clients.

Halfway through, I noticed her right hand was trembling slightly. I thought it was due to the cold draft from the air conditioning, so I asked if she needed a shawl.

She replied that it was her anxiety disorder acting up.

“I was not fierce or strict with you. What caused your sudden anxiety?”

“I…ever since the pandemic disrupted my plans, I have been in this state of anxiety. I kept feeling useless. All my classmates are progressing expect me. I have nothing to show for and my life is in a mess. I am very anxious. What if I continue to be like this? What am I going to do?”

As she spoke, her eyes turned red and tears started rolling down like a broken strand of pearl necklace scattering onto the ground.

Oh dear! I am beginning to wonder if I have a tear-jerker face or a heart-tormenting voice. Why do my clients, regardless of gender and age, North South or East West, seem to cry easily when they see me?

I grabbed a piece of tissue and handed it to her.

“Ain’t I here already? You came to me for a roadmap and you are very lucky to see me so soon. Look at how precise and neat your notes are! Many of my clients aren’t even on par with you. My job today is to give you answers. If I didn’t have the confidence, I would not have taken up your request. Now that I did, that means there is still hope. If you follow my instructions, you will see things looking up very soon.”

On another occasion, a mother in her forties came to me for her son’s Bazi consultation.

As I was analysing, the mother nodded her head in agreement. The next thing I know, she started weeping loudly.

I turned to look at her husband, who had been silent all along. Did I say something wrong? And hello, your wife was crying. Why weren’t you gentleman enough to give her a tissue paper?

“I am a useless mother. I am incompetent. I do not know how to teach my son well. I love my son very much. But many times, I do not know what to do and thus I flare up at him and speak harshly. I always regret afterwards. I tried enduring but it still ends badly!”

I did not interrupt her and waited for her cries to soften, before speaking gently, “I’m here! I’m already sitting in front of you. You are looking at me now and that means help is here. You know that you are incompetent, so you went looking for solutions. That means you are willing to learn how to be a better mother!”

I handed a piece of tissue and said, “Don’t cry anymore, otherwise, other patrons will think that it’s because I refuse to lend you money.”

Since young, we have been using external possessions to define whether our lives are worth liking.

The family we are born into, our looks, health, body shape, intellect, talents, and then we move on to compare our academics, friendships, career, wealth, marriage and children.

If we are lacking in the area we covet most, we grade our lives as a failure.

I think this is the biggest problem in societal education. Our parents and teachers categorized us that way. Whether we as children are worthy of their love and bragging, depends on the few points above too.

Thus over time, we can only use the term “success” to determine whether we are of value, for some people, whether they should live on to take their next breath.

I very much prefer the definition in Buddhism. We are all Buddhas. Each and every sentient being in the six realms has a Buddha nature in them. But they got lost momentarily and fell into the endless wheel of reincarnation.

Yet, because of our Buddha nature, we have an unlimited source of potential. Every one of us has a very powerful strength inside us. It is just waiting for us to meet an accomplished teacher, so that we have the tools to explore and understand it:

And this strength that we are born with is the capital for us to transform and establish our own destiny.

If life is smooth-sailing, we would never want to leave and would mistake this mortal realm for Pureland. Thus, we all need sufferings, to realise that we should break out of this hell of a place. There has to be a better world somewhere. So how we get there?

We should, in fact, be grateful for all the setbacks and failures we have. Because it is from these sufferings, our wisdom arise:

No single Bazi is perfect. Every failure and lack we experience is the best arrangement for us, so that the heart of renunciation will arise in us and we will return to where we came from.

☕️ 𝑩𝒓𝒖𝒏𝒄𝒉 𝒂𝒕 𝑻𝑪𝑨 ☕️
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Timestamps
00:00 - 00:55 A Quick Hello & Catch Up! ??
00:57 - 01:23 My 2nd semester was crazyyyyy ?
01:24 - 01:59 What my Homepage looks like
02:00 - 02:29 [Tutorial] How to make 2-3 columns
02:31 - 02:40 [Tutorial] Changing font colours
02:41 - 02:47 [Tutorial] Shortcut to Making Quotes
02:48 - 03:12 [Tutorial] Shortcut to Making Callouts
03:13 - 03:30 My Quick Link Box is a Callout
03:34 - 03:38 [Tutorial] Shortcut for Emojis
03:38 - 03:47 [Tutorial] Shortcut to link words
03:48 - 03:53 [Tutorial] Shortcut for Highlighting
03:54 - 04:17 Showing other pages on the Homepage
04:18 - 04:40 The Real Deal - The Main Notebook for all my Documents
04:41 - 05:07 Comparing Notion to a Physical Notebook
05:08 - 07:03 Notebook #1: The Ojibala Notebook
07:04 - 08:47 Notebook #2: Academics Only Notebook
08:48 - 10:00 Notebook #3: Weekly Views' Notebook
10:01 - 11:46 Notebook #4: Media Law Notebooks
11:47 - 12:22 Notebook #5: Child Language Notebooks
12:23 - 12:57 Notebook #6: CELTA Notebooks
12:58 - 13:53 [Tutorial] Settings/ Categories for the Notebooks
13:54 - 15:59 [Tutorial] Lets make templates together!
16:00 - 16:15 [Tutorial] How to move your notes around
16:16 - 16:52 Comparing Notion to a Physical Notebook (again)
16:53 - 17:42 [Tutorial] How to link other Notion pages to a word
17:43 - 18:03 Just casually boasting about Notion
18:03 - 18:17 Comparing Notion to other Note-taking Apps
18:18 - 18:38 Conclusion

and hello again!! ??

?? I really missed putting videos out here - this has got to be the longest one, I apologise!!! I love talking about Notion because of the 101 ways you can organise your messy life in there ?️

** If you have a student email ending with ac.uk, Notion is free for you! **

? I am currently wrapping up my 2nd semester of my 2nd year. I'm studying remotely from Malaysia due to the circumstances that we are in ????

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If you're new here, my name is Shawn & I'm a 2nd Year English and Media (Joint Honours) Student, studying in Swansea University, Wales. I really enjoy Ali Abdaal's videos hence why I am trying to make such a productive video & wished I wasnt this busy but second year has left me with no choice... ?

I wished I made more videos!! My First Year videos were so memorable & looking back at them really made me cherish my time in Swansea & my friends ?

If you read all the way until this point, I just want to say thank you for reading!! If you specifically want to hear more about my university course in my videos, drop me a message down below!

✨本集來賓：
從美國辭掉apple工程師的Ian和精算師的Eric，成為YouTuber TheDoDoMen 的過程
YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/TheDoDoMen
IG: https://www.instagram.com/thedodomen

- 為什麼面對夢想只能裹足不前，評估狀況、想好計劃、下定決心 | Stop planning your dream, Just do it
- 把每一天當成最後一天來活，那要做什麼才有意義 | Live everyday like your last
- 危機就是轉機！雖然因為covid-19不能環遊世界，但轉職做 YouTuber又何嘗不是挑戰 | Crisis is opportunity
- 機會是留給準備好的人！因為舊金山封城而拍的影片開始被看到 | is it Luck or perserverance?

我們每集都會辦抽書活動，記得 follow 我們 🤩
IG: https://www.instagram.com/leftsideescalator.jacky/
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(00:01:12) Jacky與Eric、Ian的相識過程 | How we met
(00:03:24) 神回覆的三個字形容自己 | 3 words to describe each other
(00:07:53) 小時候到美國的文化衝擊 | Cultural shock moving to the US
(00:11:50) 回台灣的逆向文化衝突居然是等垃圾車 | Reverse culture shock moving back to Taiwan
(00:14:58) 融合台灣和美國的文化 | Fusion of Taiwanese and American culture
(00:16:11) 亞洲家長的過度關心 | Asian parenting
(00:17:40) 兩邊的文化對人生有什麼影響 | Impact of being bi-cultural & bi-lingual
(00:21:03) 脫離舒適圈：自信和獨立思考 | Leaving comfort zone, confidence and independent thinking
(00:23:11) 成績不代表一切的證明 | Grades aren't everything
(00:25:58) 自信的無形蝴蝶效應 | The butterfly ball effect on building confidence
(00:27:13) 大學申請實習對課業影響 | Internships in college impact on their lives
(00:30:27) 大學除了課業以外 最大的收穫 | Biggest takeaways from school other than academics
(00:32:03) Eric 和 Ian的相識過程 | How Eric & Ian met
(00:32:50) 聊聊apple工程師和精算師的工作 | Jobs as Apple Engineer and Actuary science
(0037:03) 什麼時候埋下辭職的種子 | When the idea of quitting
(00:38:07) Ian首次公開的人生大事 | Ian's exclusive story
(00:41:30) 以下暴雷「靈魂急轉彎」請注意 | "Soul" the movie / spoiler alert
(00:42:27) 為什麼會想開Youtube頻道 | Why start YouTube channel?
(00:43:25) 剛開始拍Youtube的時候最難的是 | Hardest thing about starting a channel
(00:45:16) 會不會不適應成為Influencer要公開私生活？| Private life
(00:47:34) 還不成名的時候怎麼堅持 | Perseverance before fame
(00:48:38) 舊金山封城是轉折點 | Lockdown turnaround
(00:51:25) 數據放一邊 先做自己想做的 | Data aside, do what you want
(00:52:36) 犧牲很大 但觀看很少的影片 | Huge sacrifice, low reward videos
(00:53:30) 回覆酸民留言來了 | Here's to you haters
(00:56:23) YouTuber最容易被誤會的事 | Biggest misconception from being YouTubers
(00:57:10) 只有先準備好 才有爆紅的機會 | Luck is for those who are prepared
(00:59:45) 一開始有設立停損嗎 | Limit stop?
(01:00:49) YouTuber Role Model
(01:01:33) 影片想傳遞的核心價值 | Core value from videos
(1:02:24) 兩個人意見不同的時候 | When disagreement happens
(1:05:34) 成為YouTuber最大的成長 | Biggest learning from becoming YouTubers
(1:06:55) YouTuber的時間管理 | Time management as YouTubers
(1:09:29) 創造和技術類工作的差異 | Difference between a content creator and technical career

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