Brutal honesty: I said to the audience at @chika.mag event that if I had been in that same room with a whole bunch of amazing looking women years ago, I would probably have freaked out 🙊 Why? The standard of beauty I had set upon myself was ridiculous, unrealistic and years of comparing myself to other bodies did more harm than good for me and how I held myself in relationships. I would’ve been too busy being self-conscious and intimidated to actually enjoy the event. The theme of the panel was “Beauty Standards” with excellent questions posed by founder and moderator @pearll_y Questions are BEAUTIFUL. If we want to have more beautiful conversations, we gotta practice asking better-serving questions. Every single one of us contribute to the collective standard of beauty. It either stings ya now or it comes back to bite you in the booty. Something has “trivial” as … “You’re so skinny now, you look great! Have you been on a diet?”… —> tells the receiver of that “innocent” question that “skinny” equals “looking good” and ties in to “must diet” Is this really the world we want to continue creating for our daughters and sons? Pearl invited each of us on the panel @strongerwstell @maisiekwong to share a closing thought. I love that, and Stella & Maisie shared beautifully. My share comes from the place of How Do You Want To Lead Your Life with the remaining time you think you have? #BorderlineMorbid 😅 Stay caught up with “society’s expectations” set by God-knows-who at the cost of fulfilment? Pursue ways to help the ones less fortunate authentically (not for clout)? Daring to dream big & actualize then because that courage inspires those who never thought they could? For me, it’s forever evolving and accepting the changes. My body will continue to change along with my mind and soul, what a privilege to age and share time with chosen people. Adaptability- that’s the beauty standard I respect. … ___________________________________________________ Fill this in for you. You can choose to share or not share, it doesn’t mean any less 💓 Mad props to what @pearll_y @chika.mag is doing and her direction 🌟

[TMRM BENTON] last but not least Aloe & Fermentation Line Full review at my Blog (link in bio) 💫 Aloe Line 〰️ excellent in soothing, hydrates & nourishes, keep'g skin vitalized & nourished from high contents of Aloe ingr. 1) Aloe BHA Skin Toner 〰️ my new HG multi-action toner from exfoliat'g to hydrat'g 〰️ essence formulation that contain 80% Aloe Vera ingr. & 0.5% BHA which feels gentle on dry sensitive skin to exfoliate all congested pores & dead skin cells effectively w/o worry about tightness/ strip when used w/ cotton pad. 〰️ has cool feeling & leaves hydrating finish on skin 2) Soothing Mask Pack 〰️ has thin natural Tensel sheet that adheres well on skin & soaked w/ 48% Aloe ing., slightly acidic formulation perfectly for hydrat'g & soothes irritated & inflamed skin 〰️ has cool feel'g from Green Tea leaf extract, which I found best applied during hot weather - does great job reduce skin’s heat temperature (my skin feels cool when touch). 〰️ leftover essence absorbs well w/o tackiness leaving my skin hydrated & nourished. . 💫 Fermentation Line 〰️ contains high contents of Galactomyces Ferment Filtrate & Bifida Ferment Lysate w/ Ceramide & Peptides for skin renewal, nourish’g & illuminat’g the skin 〰️ wrinkle care ingr. from Adenosine for fine lines & firm'g skin 1) Fermentation Eye Cream 〰️ 1st eye cream that’ll be emptied sooner than expected 〰️ also on whole face & neck areas 〰️ moist cream formulation that melts right away as it touches skin & absorbs well w/o greasiness 〰️ feels lightweight on skin & it doesn’t stings my eyes/make me sweat when applied during mid-day 〰️ noticed slight improvement on nasolabial folds & necklines less noticeable after 30days used 2) Fermentation Mask Pack 〰️ cotton+cellulose fiber sheet w/ soft texture perfectly adheres on face 〰️ soaked w/ additional Lactobacillus for additional skin elasticity & radiance care. 〰️ leftover essence absorbs well w/o tackiness & does great job at provid'g immediate moisturiz'g & hydrat'g effect after use. 〰️ noticed skin looks plump & glow when applied fermentation eye cream afterward. Which is your fav Benton prod? . @stylekorean_global @bentoncosmetic

One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned is that closure is something I had to give myself, not wait around, hoping for it to happen. As soon as I realised I have the power to close certain chapters in my life, it was much easier to move forward and start afresh. Yes, it hurts, and it stings. But I refuse to let hurt be a long term tenant in my heart. I would like to make space for wisdom and compassion to take over instead as I believe that is what Allah SWT has planned for me all along. So I forgave, rested my case, and began a new phase. 💛