【一切的失敗和不足，都是最美好的安排】
All Failures & Lacks Are The Best Things to Happen to Us

三個月前，收到來自台灣客人的這封電郵時，開心和心酸交織著在心裡。

開心，因為這是一年前通過Zoom視訊的客人。他居然在我們看八字的一週年，特地寫了封感謝函給我，真有心！

心酸，因為他寫在電郵裡的低落心情，我完完全全明白。

他的經歷，是我的曾經。我當初也是很難，很久才能走出來。

有一回，我為一位芳華正茂的女子批八字時，她很用心的寫下我說的話。

論寫筆記的完整，她是我客人當中的佼佼者。

寫到一半，我注意到她的右手開始微微顫抖。我以為是空調的風太大了，冷到她，便問她要不要披巾。

她說，是她的焦慮症發作。

「我沒在兇你，也沒對你嚴厲，你為何突然焦慮？」

「我.....打從今年疫情打亂了我的計畫，我就一直很焦慮。我覺得我很沒用，同學們都前進了，只有我現在什麼都不是，亂糟糟的。我就一直很緊張，萬一我一直都是這樣，怎麼辦？」

說著，她眼眶一紅，眼淚像斷了線的珍珠鏈似的灑下來。

我的媽呀！是我的樣子長得很催淚，還是我的聲音聽起來很虐心？怎麼客人，不分男女老少，東南西北，看到我好像都很容易哭？

我抓起一張紙巾遞給她。

「所以，我不是來了嗎？你來找我，就是要問個明路，而你很幸運那麼快就看到我啦！你看你的筆記寫得多工整，多齊全。我很多客人都不如你啊！我今天的工作，就是來給你答案的。我沒有把握，也不會接你這份差事。我接了，就代表還可以補救。你照著我的指示去做，一定柳暗花明又一村。」

又另一回，一位四十多歲的媽媽請我看兒子的八字。

我在批著八字時，這位媽媽點頭認同，然後就聲淚俱下。

我轉頭看著她沈默不語的先生。我說錯了什麼嗎？太太哭成淚人，你怎麼連紙巾也不拿給她啊？

「我是個沒有用的母親，很不稱職的母親。我沒有辦法教好孩子。我很愛他，可是很多時候我都不知道要怎麼做，我就會對他發脾氣，說狠話，過後我又後悔。我忍下來，可是後來還是會一樣！」

我沒打斷她，等她的哭聲逐漸小聲後，我柔柔的說：「我來啦！我坐在你前面了。你已經看到我，就是有辦法了。你知道你自己不行，會去找辦法，就代表你願意去學習做個好媽媽啊！」

我把紙巾遞給她，再說：「不要哭了，要不然，別人看了以為是我不要借你錢，才把你弄得那麼傷心。」

曾幾何時，我們都會以外在所擁有的，來定義自己的人生是否值得自己喜歡。

從原生家庭、樣貌、健康、身型、智力、天賦等，到後來的學歷、友情、事業、財富、婚姻、子女......

哪一樣沒有，而偏偏是我們最想要的，我們就會認定自己失敗的一塌糊塗。

我認為這就是普通教育最大的問題所在。父母老師都是這樣把我們「分門別類」的。值不值得父母疼愛或向親朋戚友炫耀，也離不開那幾點。

久而久之，我們也只會以「成功」來定義自己是否有價值，甚至來衡量自己是否有活下去的勇氣。

我比較喜歡佛法的定義。我們每個人都是一尊佛，六道眾生皆有佛性，只因一時的迷，因此墮落在苦輪不停的輪迴。

可正因為我們有佛性，我們都有無窮無盡的可能。每個人的內在有著很強大的力量，等著我們遇到明師後，去發掘、探索和了解。

而這天生俱來的力量，就是你改命立命的資本。

如果人生順風順水，我們永遠不會想要出離，誤把人間當極樂，所以一定要有苦，我們才會意識到，為什麼我們會在這鬼地方？要怎麼樣才可以離開這鬼地方去到極樂？

反過來，我們都應該感恩自己遇到的挫折，因為從這些苦中，我們才能生出智慧。

沒有一個八字是完美的。一切的失敗和不足，都是最美好的安排，如此你才會有出離心，返本歸源。

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3 months ago, when I received this email from my Taiwan client, there was this feeling of bittersweetness.

I was happy because this was the client I did a Zoom consultation last June. He sent me this email on the one-year anniversary date of our Zoom call, to express his gratitude. How sweet!

On the other hand, I could relate to the emotional turmoil he felt at that point in his life.

His experience was my past. It also took me a very long time to walk out from my gloominess.

Once, I analysed the Bazi of a very young lady. She was meticulously jotting down notes as I spoke.

Her detailed note-taking skills easily took the top place among my clients.

Halfway through, I noticed her right hand was trembling slightly. I thought it was due to the cold draft from the air conditioning, so I asked if she needed a shawl.

She replied that it was her anxiety disorder acting up.

“I was not fierce or strict with you. What caused your sudden anxiety?”

“I…ever since the pandemic disrupted my plans, I have been in this state of anxiety. I kept feeling useless. All my classmates are progressing expect me. I have nothing to show for and my life is in a mess. I am very anxious. What if I continue to be like this? What am I going to do?”

As she spoke, her eyes turned red and tears started rolling down like a broken strand of pearl necklace scattering onto the ground.

Oh dear! I am beginning to wonder if I have a tear-jerker face or a heart-tormenting voice. Why do my clients, regardless of gender and age, North South or East West, seem to cry easily when they see me?

I grabbed a piece of tissue and handed it to her.

“Ain’t I here already? You came to me for a roadmap and you are very lucky to see me so soon. Look at how precise and neat your notes are! Many of my clients aren’t even on par with you. My job today is to give you answers. If I didn’t have the confidence, I would not have taken up your request. Now that I did, that means there is still hope. If you follow my instructions, you will see things looking up very soon.”

On another occasion, a mother in her forties came to me for her son’s Bazi consultation.

As I was analysing, the mother nodded her head in agreement. The next thing I know, she started weeping loudly.

I turned to look at her husband, who had been silent all along. Did I say something wrong? And hello, your wife was crying. Why weren’t you gentleman enough to give her a tissue paper?

“I am a useless mother. I am incompetent. I do not know how to teach my son well. I love my son very much. But many times, I do not know what to do and thus I flare up at him and speak harshly. I always regret afterwards. I tried enduring but it still ends badly!”

I did not interrupt her and waited for her cries to soften, before speaking gently, “I’m here! I’m already sitting in front of you. You are looking at me now and that means help is here. You know that you are incompetent, so you went looking for solutions. That means you are willing to learn how to be a better mother!”

I handed a piece of tissue and said, “Don’t cry anymore, otherwise, other patrons will think that it’s because I refuse to lend you money.”

Since young, we have been using external possessions to define whether our lives are worth liking.

The family we are born into, our looks, health, body shape, intellect, talents, and then we move on to compare our academics, friendships, career, wealth, marriage and children.

If we are lacking in the area we covet most, we grade our lives as a failure.

I think this is the biggest problem in societal education. Our parents and teachers categorized us that way. Whether we as children are worthy of their love and bragging, depends on the few points above too.

Thus over time, we can only use the term “success” to determine whether we are of value, for some people, whether they should live on to take their next breath.

I very much prefer the definition in Buddhism. We are all Buddhas. Each and every sentient being in the six realms has a Buddha nature in them. But they got lost momentarily and fell into the endless wheel of reincarnation.

Yet, because of our Buddha nature, we have an unlimited source of potential. Every one of us has a very powerful strength inside us. It is just waiting for us to meet an accomplished teacher, so that we have the tools to explore and understand it:

And this strength that we are born with is the capital for us to transform and establish our own destiny.

If life is smooth-sailing, we would never want to leave and would mistake this mortal realm for Pureland. Thus, we all need sufferings, to realise that we should break out of this hell of a place. There has to be a better world somewhere. So how we get there?

We should, in fact, be grateful for all the setbacks and failures we have. Because it is from these sufferings, our wisdom arise:

No single Bazi is perfect. Every failure and lack we experience is the best arrangement for us, so that the heart of renunciation will arise in us and we will return to where we came from.

什麼樣的主管，讓人願意追隨？

老子指出，「這種」君主最容易受到愛戴！你的老闆，是這種人嗎？ >>

總統拜登成為中國頭號笑柄，慘遭盡情羞辱，除了淪為「東昇西降」對內宣傳頭號贊助人，還間接成為在英文教育被當局掃蕩之下的英文教師。若不是拜登及其支持者，中國人不會知道「軟弱無能」除了soft 和incompetent ，還可以叫做feckless。「痴呆」、「垃圾」等詞俱有豐富的詞彙。

中國或實在太高興（雖然以下這篇文章的標題，罕有地令人贊同），竟一時將此美軍定性為英雄。在邏輯上，塔利班是中國人民的好朋友，一個來殲滅中國人民的好朋友的美國軍人，又怎會是英雄呢？

據這位英雄母親控訴：殺死兒子的，嚴格來說不是塔利班，也不是拜登，而是每一個投票拜登做總統及為其啦啦吶喊者，不分種族，手上和嘴巴全部都沾有這個高貴的美國英雄的鮮血。

對於這位母親，有民主低端人口紛紛裝聾作啞，顧左右而言他，當做什麼事也沒有發生。

如果這位母親一年來follow 過本台就美國大選的種種評論，在今年一月二十日當日，應該大力勸說兒子暫時退伍，勿為一個充滿痴呆的美國服務犯險，為期至少四年。

若這對母子跟隨我大半年前總統大選的理性評核，今日，這位氣質真正美國的軍人英雄還活着。

海地總統 Jovenel Moise 週三被暗殺震驚全世界。 這個約 1,100 萬人口的加勒比海國家，許多國民生活在貧困和日益加劇的暴力之中。現在他們面臨著更加不確定的未來，接下來會怎麼辦？誰會接替總統職務呢？

0:00 Intro
0:08 第一遍英文朗讀 (慢)
2:57 新聞單字片語解說
22:38 第二遍英文朗讀 (快)

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本集介紹的單字片語有：
Haiti 海地
Caribbean Sea 加勒比海
Dominican Republic 多明尼加共和國
Creole 海地克里奧爾語
Port-au-Prince 海地首都
Life expectancy 預期壽命
Jovenel Moise 摩依士（被暗殺的總統)
Controversial 有爭議的
Term of presidency  總統任期
Parliament 議會
Professional killers 職業殺手
First lady 第一夫人
Colombian mercenaries 哥倫比亞僱傭軍
Haitian-Americans 海地裔美國人
Conspiracy theories 陰謀論
Vilbrun Guillaume Sam 1915年被殺的海地總統
Acting Prime Minister 代理總理
President of the Supreme Court 最高法院院長
Incompetent 無能
Homeland Security (美國) 國土安全部
Storm (名詞) 暴風雨
Storm (動詞) 襲擊 / 攻佔；暴怒、咆哮
Storm in / into 憤怒的沖入
Storm out / off 憤怒的離開



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各節重點：
00:00 前導
01:36 美國「國安顧問」有多大？
02:41 當川普遇上波頓
04:49 反目成仇
06:22 出書爆料
08:20 川普的反擊
08:54 我們的觀點
09:59 提問

【 製作團隊 】

｜企劃：路寬
｜腳本：路寬、土龍
｜編輯：土龍
｜剪輯後製：Pookie
｜剪輯助理：歆雅、范范
｜演出：志祺

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【 本集參考資料 】

→ From Bolton to Mattis, Trump Faces Aides Turned Adversaries：https://bloom.bg/3iBIIWN
→ 22 new books that reveal the inner workings of the Trump administration：https://bit.ly/2DJ4VmW
→ ‘Disgruntled boring fool’: Trump lashes out at former aide John Bolton over details in tell-all book：https://bit.ly/2XOJK9F
→ Trump lashes out against John Bolton in response to damning allegations in tell-all memoir, which the president says is 'made up of lies and fake stories：https://bit.ly/2CimIk3
→ John Bolton’s ‘The Room Where It Happened’ Sells Over 780,000 Copies in First Week：https://bit.ly/33O8a7e
→ John Bolton’s bombshell Trump book: eight of its most stunning claims：https://bit.ly/31KWmQq
→ John Bolton: Ten biggest claims in his Donald Trump book：https://bbc.in/33Sp054
→ Trump Once Asked If Finland Is Part Of Russia, Bolton Book Says：https://bit.ly/3fSry5g
→ White House attempt to block publication of Bolton book fails：https://on.ft.com/2DYgHd2
→ Donald Trump unable to differentiate between private affairs and nation’s interests' ：https://bit.ly/3ahVyqj
→ How incompetent is Donald Trump? Interview with John Bolton | Conflict Zone：https://bit.ly/31DOgZU
→ 伊朗擊落美軍無人機》紐時：川普下令空襲報復，機艦全就位卻臨時喊卡！：https://bit.ly/31FUVD2
→ 阿富汗和談破局 揭美國務卿與國安顧問鬥法：https://bit.ly/30QpFlz
→ 川普撤換國安顧問波頓 紐時：爭論政策是導火線：https://bit.ly/3fQgsO6
→ 討好政治「強人」？波頓爆料：川普傾心習近平、普亭：https://bit.ly/33MV1eF
→ 波頓新書曝：習親自求川普放了中興、華為一馬：https://bit.ly/3fKnmEB
→ 座標圖：https://bit.ly/31MBB7b
→ 法官對DoJ申請書及出版禁制令的判決：https://bit.ly/2PMrSb8

【 延伸閱讀 】

→ 誤讀尼泊爾為nipple！川普外交內幕曝光　超愛致電給馬克宏閒聊：https://bit.ly/2DI20e4
→ 波頓新書《事發之室：白宮回憶錄》導讀：川普為何對台灣如此不在乎？：https://bit.ly/33RbjDm
→ 他是外交鷹派、也是親台派：美國國安顧問波頓下台，將如何影響美外交政策？：https://bit.ly/2DZYGuw
→ 波頓新書雖是充滿主觀恨意的報仇之作，但也撕去了川普的國王新衣：https://bit.ly/3fPQrif



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我們一出生，就從來沒有停止過去追求幸福。小時後，吃喜歡的食物，玩新的玩具，去新的地方，長大後，追求愛情、事業、金錢.......

但有的人，天生八字真的不怎麼樣，小時讀書馬馬虎虎，長大後，要財沒財，要事業沒事業，要愛情沒愛情，原生家庭又給不到她他溫暖。

於是，有些人把希望寄託在孩子身上，以為自己生孩子，也能夠製造一個快樂溫馨的家庭，是他們的人生終極目標。

但是他們都沒發現，他們的八字根本沒有這樣的命。夢想和現實起了對立，有了自己的家庭後，反而煩惱更多，快樂更少。

錢依然不夠用，伴侶原來不是稱職的家長，大家會為了孩子的事吵架、冷戰。

孩子健康又不好、情緒管理差、很難教，女傭讓他們很傷腦筋，兼顧家庭和事業也讓自己不停和時間賽跑，活得沒有自己，也不知道到底哪一天才會雨過天晴。

八字無法改，但是一命二運三風水，所以八字沒有的，聰明的人會用風水來補助自己的運。

我常跟客人說：不要傻傻地吃苦。很多時候，只要把居家風水搞好，很多的問題都能迎刃而解。這基礎做好了，就算您沒有去追求，幸福也會自動降臨您家。

風水如何能夠讓您心安的六種方式，且聽我在這影片的解說。

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Since our birth, we have never stopped pursuing happiness. As kids, we cheer when we get to eat our favourite food, play new toys and see new places. As adults, we chase love, career achievements and  money. 

However, there are some people whose Bazi are really nothing to shout about. When they are young, their academics are so so. When they grow up, they want money but they don't get it. They want a good career, but no, it didn't happen. They crave a good relationship but nah, they never have it. And the family they grow in couldn't give them the warmth in their lives either.

Hence, some of them place their hopes on having children they think belong to them. They envision that they can finally create a loving and warm family. That shall be their ultimate life goal. That is why people work so hard for, isn't it?

But what they didn't realise is that their Bazi were not able to support them in their pursuits. Their dreams and the reality they face every day become a stark disparity. As they have their own families, instead of having more happiness, they get more troubled.

Money still remains scarce, and the spouse turns out be an incompetent parent, causing conflicts and cold wars in the marriage over the children. 

The children aren't any better off. Their health fluctuates, they are poor in emotional management, do not listen well to instructions. With both parents working, getting a good maid is necessary. Yet, this maid becomes another headache. Balancing both family and work starts taking a toll on them. Every day is a race against time. There's no living for yourself like what all those new age gurus preached. Worse is when they have no idea EXACTLY WHEN life will be better. 

We can't change our Bazi. So as the Chinese saying goes, first is our Destiny, second is our Luck, third will be our Feng Shui. Whatever our Bazi lacks, the smart person will make up for it by using Feng Shui to supplement their own luck. 

Don't suffer in vain, when a solution is actually within reach. In many situations, after the home Feng Shui is done right, many problems get resolved.  Once this foundation is laid right, even when you are not actively chasing for it like a mad hamster, happiness will descend into your home by default. 

So how exactly can Feng Shui give you a peace of mind? I talk about the 6 ways here in this video.

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阿彌陀佛，你好！我是李季謙，來自新加坡的風水命理師。我將我的一生貢獻於弘揚佛法和中華玄學。這過程曲折離奇，卻也充滿了許多人生的領悟。

通過我的影音與寫作，我希望能與你分享，盼你也能夠突破自己命運的束縛，真正活得精彩：我命在我，不在天。

人生長短無所謂，最重要的是活得有價值，有貢獻。

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Hi, I am Lee Ji Qian, a Chinese Metaphysics practitioner from Singapore. This journey in propagating Buddhism and Chinese Metaphysics has been full of hard knocks and exciting discoveries.

Through my videos and online writing, I hope to share my journey with you. So that you too can break free from the limits of your destiny and truly live a life you can call exciting. My destiny is in my own hands, not Heaven. So is yours.

It does not matter whether we can live a long or short life.
What matters most is living a life of value and contribution.

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