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🌟今天是5/17國際不再恐同日（International Day against Homophobia, Transphobia, and Biphobia，IDAHOTB）

中文雖簡化名稱為恐同日，但其實是希望喚起大家關注對於同性戀、跨性別與雙性戀的恐懼。

針對不同的性傾向與性別認同，隨之而來可能的肉體與精神上的暴力、不公正的對待，應該被正視和關注！
很多的偏見與歧視，來自於不理解、少數；而5/17這樣的日子設立，正是希望有朝一日，國際不再恐同日能夠消失，而能夠迎接「生而為人，都可以有尊嚴也快樂的生活在世界上」。

✨LGBTQ+你認得多少
大家對於LBBTQ應該不陌生，但是接下來的英文數字應該就....搞不清楚了吧XD

每一個英文數字都是努力的奮鬥而來，來自這些族群曾因為不是多數而辛苦、不是「和大家一樣的」而需要藏起來，這些在2021年的今天，相信仍有許多人需要這樣生活著。
時代是不斷的在進步著，而對於「未知」的理解包容，值得我們再家把勁！

📣讓我們透過認識、取代未知；透過理解接納、取代偏見

📍L，Lesbian，女同志。
性別認同是女生，對女生有情慾與性慾。

📍G，Gay，男同志。
性別認同是男生，對男生有情慾與性慾。

📍B，Bisexual，雙性戀。
不論性別認同為何，會對異性及同性產生情慾與性慾。

📍T，Transgender，跨性別。
跨性別代表出生性別(生理)，與自我性別(心理)認同不符的人。跨性別可能生理上，生理上是女性，但心理上是男性(女跨男)是男性。
跨性別者是一種性別認同，在性傾向上仍可能是異性戀、同性戀或是雙性戀。

📍Q，Queer/Questioning，性別酷兒/移性戀。
酷兒或疑性戀，是用來代表還在摸索，還不確定自己的性別認同與性傾向為何的人。

📍I，Intersex，雙性人。
指天生同時具有男性及女性生理特徵的人，在成長過程中，可能會發展出自己的心理性別認同，便會動手術切除非性別認同的性器官。

📍A，Asexual無性戀/Agender無性別/Ally同盟者。
1️⃣Asexual無性戀，是指性傾向。指無法從他人身上感受到性吸引力或是產生情慾，也不想與他人發生性關係。
2️⃣Agender無性別，是性別認同。認為自己不屬於任何性別，排除性別二分法。
3️⃣Ally同盟者，是支持同志族群的人，泛指對LGBT友善的異性戀者。

📍P，Pansexual，泛性戀。
對任何性別認同的人產生情慾及性慾。與二元的雙性戀相比，泛性戀能代表打破框架的自由愛戀。

📍K，Kink
指「特殊性僻好」的統稱，例如BDSM皮繩愉虐就是其中之一。

上面的英文字母代表的意思你認得幾個呢？TAG朋友一起來認識吧！

參考文獻：
1️⃣LEZS女人國小百科
2️⃣Lyons(2020). What Is Internalized Homophobia? Psychology Today.

#國際不再恐同日 #517 #性傾向 #性別認同 #LGBTQIAPK #sexualorientation #identity #peace #love #同志諮商 #心理諮商 #台北心理諮商 #新北心理諮商 #心理學 #諮商心理師 #郭玟秀諮商心理師 #黃旻諮商心理師 #麗莎圖文插畫家

今天是5月17日，也是國際不再恐同日。
（International Day against Homophobia, Transphobia, and Biphobia，簡稱IDAHOTB）

去年的這個時候，立法院三讀通過司法院釋字第748號解釋施行法，規定相同性別2人可向戶政機關辦理結婚登記，台灣成為亞洲第一個同性婚姻合法化國家。

這一年來，爸爸媽媽並沒有不見，爺爺奶奶也沒有不見。但台灣多了很多真心相愛的結合，有更多人能因為相愛而能選擇一起走入婚姻。

而517這個日子是希望喚醒世人關注對同性戀、跨性別與雙性戀的包容。希望不要因性傾向及性別認同，而造成他人肉體上及精神上的暴力及不公平對待。

佳微希望大家能夠了解並尊重，人人都有受到平等對待的權利，在愛裡，我們都一樣。

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“An open letter to Eric Kwok, and for everyone re homophobia, discrimination and bullying”

Dear Eric,

Imagine this. You are one of the contestants on a TV talent show. You are sitting in a room with other hopefuls and one of the judges walks into the room and demanded this: “Raise your hand if you are not homophobic.”

I’m very sure you will raise your hand.

You don’t have to answer me whether or not you really are homophobic. But stay with the feeling inside your mind. How do you feel?

Your feelings are most likely the same as the feelings of your contestants when you walked into a room and asked them to raise their hands to declare their sexual orientation publicly. Because in this day and age, homophobia is just as “controversial” as homosexuality, if not more.

The reason why I’m writing this open letter to you is because after reading your apology, I want to take the opportunity to address to you, and everyone out there, the need for proper etiquette regarding LGBT issues, and to address the forms of micro-aggression, bullying and discrimination the LGBT community faces everyday especially in the workplace.

I’m taking this incident seriously because from my personal experience, this is not just a one-time slip-up for you.

I remember long time ago I was so looking forward to meeting and working with you because you are, after all, Eric Kwok the great songwriter.

You were very friendly when we talked privately. Then I started to notice how once there were audiences, media or other people around and when the cameras were turned on, you would start making insinuating and demeaning gay jokes about me and in front of me. Jokes and comments even my closest friends wouldn’t dare to make in public.

At first, I didn’t really pay too much attention. I just brushed it off as juvenile and trivial. In fact, I had been so used to these jokes since growing up that I learned not to react much.

However, as time progressed and we worked on more occasions, the same thing would happen repeatedly. The teasing and the stereotypical gay jokes continued and you would make sure that the spotlight would fall on me afterwards. The jokes no longer felt light. They felt hostile, even vindictive.

In fact, it felt like bullying.

One of these incidents was well documented in tabloids back then and you can still look it up yourself on the internet.

I came to the realization that it was not just a one-time thing. I don’t know if it’s intentional or unintentional but it’s definitely a habit and a pattern.

So many questions would be in my mind every time after working with you. Why does Eric do that every time? Is he picking on me? Does he hate me? Is he homophobic? Does he think homosexuality is something funny? Does he do this to other people too? Did I do something that pissed him off? I remember I was nothing but courteous. So why do I deserve this?

I had no answers for all of these questions. All I knew was I became fearful of working with you, dreading what words would fall out of your mouth to put me in an awkwardly embarassing position. But still I tried to give you the benefit of the doubt. You’re from California you shouldn’t be homophobic. I even defended you in my head by telling myself to loosen up.

But it’s not just you. Throughout my years in the entertainment industry, I have encountered and endured so many chauvinistic “tough guys” who like to use homosexuality as a laughing stock or source of bad comedy which were all discriminating and demeaning, yet not funny.

It’s not only me. I’m sure many people of the LGBT community face this everyday in their workplace. People around them would claim their intentions were harmless but we all knew deep down that these “jokes” have the power to put people someone in an embarrassing, inferior and even threatening positions.

We kept quiet and tolerated. Sometimes we even felt obligated to laugh along just so we couldn’t afford to look “petty” or “stiff”, especially in front of people of higher authority and stature.

So Eric I want to ask you.

Why have you been so obsessed with my sexuality all these years?

Why are you so fascinated by other people’s sexuality?

Why is being gay such a huge issue to you even to this day that you had to make it the first thing you asked your contestants?

Why you also had to specifically make a post on social media about that fact you questioned people about their sexuality?

Why do you take so much pride publicly in your ability to guess who are the gay contestants even when they weren’t ready to share that information?

And most of all why do you find all this to be so funny?

To begin with one’s sexual orientation is a very personal thing which others have no right to intrude, even in the entertainment industry where you are supposed to be fine with “controversy”.

This is for you and everyone out there: using your power and authority to demand someone to declare his or her sexual orientation, especially in a work environment, is ancient, barbaric and unacceptable.

Kicking someone out of the closet is just pure evil.

The fact you did what you did, especially with your stature and on broadcast TV, is not only wrong, but also you are telling the Hong Kong audience that it’s alright to continue this form of intrusion and micro aggression that the LGBT community wants to see gone.

You’re leading a very poor example by giving Hong Kong audience the impression that being gay is still a taboo.

How are your contestants, who are boys of young age, going to offer new perspectives to the Hong Kong audience under your guidance if you perpetuate stereotyping and demonstrate to them that being gay is still an issue?

I feel sorry for any contestants who are in fact gay sitting in that room that day too. They must have been traumatized seeing the way you forced your inquisition. The impression you left them with is that the entertainment industry is still a very unfriendly place for gays. Is that what you want them to think?

But most of all, it’s the attitude, tone and manner with which you shared about this incident on social media, giving people the impression that any matter regarding sexual orientation is still something shameful and laughable, which is on top of list the thing that the LGBT community fights hard everyday to change.

When you said in your apology you “have great respect for gay people, especially their hard fight for equality” I became baffled as what you did, in the past to me or in that room to the boys, is the exact thing that makes the LGBT community’s ongoing fight for equality so difficult.

Putting people down, perpetuate stereotypes, heckling and ridiculing yet making it look OK is anything but liberal and respectful, or Californian. I don’t see any “entertainment values” that are of good taste if they are made up at the expense of other people’s struggle.

If this incident happened in America, where you grew up, you would’ve gotten yourself in such hot waters that you probably can’t get out of.

I just want you and everyone out there to know that it’s not okay. And it never was. Never will be.

Being “as liberal as it gets” is great. Having gay friends is great too. Having dinner with your gay friends is absolutely fabulous! Playing all these cards to avoid being labelled as “homophobic” is very convenient. But having class, empathy, kindness and authentic respect is a completely different territory. These don’t come automatically with backgrounds.

At this point you don’t owe me an apology. I just hope that after this incident you can really start working and living with the essences of a truly liberal and creative individual. Inspire changes and end stereotypes. Start new trends and break old patterns. Embrace and not segregate. Do the work.

I had been away from Hong Kong and the industry for a few years now. It breaks me heart that I have to write this sort of open letter when it’s already 2018. I want to make this industry a safer, nicer and more accepting place to work in when I return. I want members of the LGBT community in Hong Kong, who have been so supportive of me and my music, to also have safer and nicer working environment in their respective lives.

I don’t mind coming off as an over-reacting petty bitch with no sense of humour if my message finally comes through and everyone, including you, “gets it”. I rather have no sense of humour than a bad one.

To all the contestants of the show. If anyone ever asks you if you are gay and you are not ready to discuss, it’s OK to stand up for yourself and say this: “It’s a rude question to begin with. You have no right to get an answer from me to begin with. And it doesn’t matter. It SHOULDN’T matter. It’s 2018. I hope one day I can use my craft to inspire the world and to make this become a non-issue.”

But if you are ready to be open, you have my complete support and love.

Let’s hope that through acceptance, learning and effort, one day there will no longer be any “controversial questions”. Wouldn’t we like that Eric?

Yours truly,
Pong

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