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前排朋友同我講起，話覺得有啲曾經都好fucked up嘅人，自己好返之後就睇唔起其他仲fucked up緊嘅人，以一種「我都做得到點解你做唔到」嘅高姿態看待人，變成咗自己以前最討厭嗰種人。

呢種問題係幾難評斷嘅，因為有啲人真係太沉浸喺自己嘅負面情緒之中，過於軟弱同抗拒成長，甚至變成toxic people，令人見到都好難同情；但又有啲人真係太traumatized，佢所經歷嘅嘢根本唔係一般人可以想像，企唔返起身都情有可原，輪唔到啲只係受過小傷/只係有輕微情緒問題嘅人去judge佢哋軟唔軟弱。

作為一個fucked up過來人，我深明嗰種好似喺深淵之中，就算想爬返上去都總會有道力扯返你落去嘅感覺。我之所以脫離到嗰個狀態，除咗食啱藥幫咗好多同受到好嘅人啟發之外，2019都係我心態上嘅一個轉捩點。每當覺得痛苦嘅時候，我都會諗有好多手足受緊更大痛苦，自己或許可以咬緊牙關再tough啲。
呢種心態同以前啲廢老講嗰種「非洲小朋友仲慘啦」唔同，想逼自己tough啲唔係因為喺鬥慘大會中輸九條街，而係喺咁嘅社會環境中，已經唔想將個人情緒睇得太過重，硬淨啲先可以承擔更多嘢，有更大力量去對抗荒謬。
但當然要小心嘅係唔好落入一種「你睇下人哋坐監都咁積極，你就成個廢柴/你唔deserve過得太開心」咁嘅自責模式中。要養傷就好好養傷，接受自己嘅軟弱，但要畀個目標自己，唔好永無止境咁一蹶不振。

To其他曾經fucked up但爬得返起身嘅人：你好叻，做得好好，不過記住要保持同理心，唔好急住同過去嘅自己割席。可能當年都冇人理解你，你亦唔期望有人理解，但唔係人人都可以好似你咁。做個溫柔嘅人，令其他人受少啲傷害，等大家都爬得返起身。

MEDIA STATEMENT: ACT AGAINST "PERIOD SPOT CHECKS" IN SCHOOLS

1. The current trending issue that has been going around on Malaysian students (former and present) are sharing disturbing stories of period spot checks and sexual harassment in school during the month of Ramadhan. Having to prove to their teachers and higher ups that they were on their period also means having their private parts touched without consent (on the context of teacher and student relationship) as well as having their panties removed to show their menstrual pads. These form of intrusion and violation of inappropriate touching, personal autonomy and body shaming through the excuse of ‘disciplinary punishment’ but in reality, it was entirely sexual harassment and abuse of power. A school or educational institutions should create an environment where students can be at peace of mind and feel safe from the secular world outside.

2. The fact that this mortifying misconduct is still happening to our students now without any measures being taken against the perpetrators is disgusting! We must stand together and put to an end of what seems so shockingly common in our society. The trauma and mental stress of being groped and touched without consent can be shattering, leaving the victim feeling traumatized, depressed and ashamed. Trauma has lasting effects.

3. Making the decision to report misconduct like such or sexual harassment takes a great deal of courage. I applaud those who gather every ounce of their courage in speaking up. Your voice is needed for the safety of other students in school and future generations to come.

4. I call upon the Ministry of Education to take prompt action and investigations by relevant authorities in ensuring that the safety of our school students will be the top priority. As schools are supposed to be conducive sanctuaries where students can feel safe and confident, let us not shatter that part of trust from our girls.

5. Sexual harassment has no place in a school. If this persist on, it defeats the purpose of an educational institution entirely.

Ainie Haziqah
EXCO Srikandi BERSATU Malaysia

Aisho Nakajima “Needed” 
“Needed” on Spotify : https://open.spotify.com/artist/73TJEwnZTYd2p0qRbn2Pi3
“Needed” on Apple Music : https://music.apple.com/us/artist/aisho-nakajima/1503461433

MV credits
film director - MATHEUS KATAYAMA (W)
director of photography - Yuki Yamaguchi
assistant director - Yui Nogiwa
camera assistant - Ali Yokota
on-set photographer - Haruki Koyama
hair cut/colored - Ryo
hair & makeup - Aisho Nakajima
nails - Aisho Nakajima
wardrobe styling - Aisho Nakajima

Aisho’s Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/aishonakajima/?hl=en
Aisho’s Twitter : https://twitter.com/aishooo74?lang=en

‘Needed’
Written by Aisho Nakajima
Produced by ELI 
Recorded/ Mixed by Aisho Nakajima 
Mastering by Wax Alchemy 

Lyrics - 

“Want you”
Skin on skin on crescent moon 

I wanna hear you say “I love you”
Why is it so hard to say it, hard to play it

All the private shit I ask why 
Whole lot of complicated shit on ur mind 

“You can do you”
Needed that from you 

Why is everything so secretive 
My mind is always over weighted 

Tell me how u got me, got me, got me to 
Convince me that I’m crazy, crazy. 
Tell me how’s the view 
The walls you built around me
Tell me why don’t you love me 
I’m tired of the separation 
it’s time to have this conversation 
ohh

Traumatized, you just don’t know it 
All my issues, you still don’t get it 
Act like ain’t nothing wrong 
You made me feel I don’t belong 

Ashes, tragic, if you only took in action
Tired of crying
Tired of fighting 

Childish games 
But I always was the one to blame 
It wasn’t worth it 
U weren’t just messing around 

Whole lot of anxiety 
All I wanted was a family 

Years without you 
Been in my head since u left me 

Tell me how u got me, got me, got me to 
Convince me that im crazy, crazy. 
Tell me how’s the view 
The walls you built around me
Tell me why don’t you love me 
I’m tired of the separation 
it’s time to have this conversation

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小甜甜布蘭妮自08年被父親監管至今，終於在首場公開的法庭聽證會上向世人揭露她13年來處處受限的生活，周遭的人對她的「操縱」和「操縱狂」該怎麼說？日文雖然取自英文，用的卻是另一個單字，這也是跨文化常見的現象。

03:28 conservatorship 監管關係
03:39 conserve 保存
03:58 conservator 監護人；保護人
05:08 friendship 友誼
05:15 hardship 艱難
05:48 後見 Kouken
05:58 後見人 Kouken nin
06:10 アメリカ人 Amerikajin 美國人
06:25 人 hito
07:22 台湾人 Taiwanjin
07:37 후견 hugyeon
07:46 후견인 (hugyeon-in)
11:34 controlling 控制狂
11:59 manipulate 操縱
12:48 manuel 手冊；手動模式
13:06 コントロール Kontorouru
13:39 통제하다 tongjehada
14:19 decorate 裝飾
14:38 decorative 裝飾的
14:38 relate 有關係的
15:15 relative 親戚
15:41 manipulative 操縱狂
18:44 I've been in denial 我一直拒絕承認
18:49 I've been in shock 我一直處在震驚之中
18:55 I am traumatized 我深受創傷
19:01 I just want my life back 我只想拿回我的人生
20:06 traumatize 創傷、心靈創傷
20:16 traumatized 受到創傷
20:21 I am traumatized 我受到創傷
20:54 トラウマ Torauma
20:24 트라우마 teulauma
21:22 ドライブ Doraibu 兜風
21:56 Let's have a ride 我們去兜兜風
22:19 conservator 監護人；保護人
22:30 conservatorship 監管關係
22:37 後見 Kouken
22:41 後見人 Kouken nin
22:47 후견 hugyeon
22:52 후견인 (hugyeon-in)
23:05 manipulate 操控
23:13 manipulative 操縱人的
23:18 relative 親戚
22:25 コントロール Kontorouru
23:34 통제하다 tongjehada
23:41 traumatize 創傷、心靈創傷
23:44 traumatized 受到創傷
23:56 トラウマ Torauma
24:01 트라우마 teulauma

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隔了两个月，谁是卧底回来了！什么东西竟然把全员吓坏了？
After 2 months, we are back with another crazy round of spyfall! Hope you guys like it!

《谁是卧底?》- https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLL-nhFIL23b2hDJAYh0XDfnikFhjbluTZ
《恶整系列》- https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLL-nhFIL23b0R9WBUf-Cnm2Y2Ddx2NaYZ
《星尝试》- https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLL-nhFIL23b13mp2LkXHVGUvg4EfDJHex

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