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比起再多的情話
不如和妳說上話。

今天來跟大家聊聊#自卑情結

自卑情結最早由Alfred Adler提出，
他將其分為原生自卑與次生自卑。

#原生自卑（Primary Inferiority）
簡單來說指的是孩童時期，
在所處環境中得不到心理滿足，
而感受到的無力不足感。

造成的原因可能像是，
不當的家庭教育或是生理特徵等。

#次生自卑（Secondary Inferiority）
簡單來說是指成年時期，
發現自己能力不夠實現目標，
或者無法達到內心的自我標準，
所衍生出來的自卑感。

造成的原因可能像是，
不滿意的成績或職場失利等。

因此總結來說，
自卑情結源自於自卑感的產生，
當人們面臨長時間且持續感到自卑，
會陷入一個不斷自我否定的惡性循環，最終使個體懷疑或否定自我價值。

而該如何跳脫自卑心理，
其實我們先天就具備相關的能力。

我們會經由過度補償的方式，
來彌補自我的不足甚至達到卓越。

#過度補償（Overcompensation)
簡單來說就是人們為了擺脫自卑，
並在某些自信缺乏的領域得到滿足時，
進而透過一些方法手段來讓自己更好。

然而，
我們仍要注意的是，
過度補償如果太極端，
也很有可能對自我造成危害。

舉個例子來說，
如有個人對自己天生的外貌不滿足，
因此選擇到整形醫院去整形。

但對於每次整形後的結果，
他仍然對此感到不甚滿意，
因而選擇傷害身旁的人，
來獲得優越感或滿足感。

自卑並不可怕，
可怕的是選擇妥協放棄。

因為明白現在的自己不好，
所以才要選擇努力讓自己更好！

擊退心魔ABC
近日台灣才女作家林奕含自殺身亡，引起公眾關注，因為她一直飽受精神病及憂鬱症所困，與她年輕時被誘姦有關。如何面對精神困擾是一個很大的議題，根據香港不同的調查，接近七成人有不同程度的情緒病，包括壓力過大、憂鬱症或過度活躍等，精神問題就是我們的心魔久纏不去。

日前，與一位臨床心理學家傾談，她說要擊退心魔可以用一個ABC model處理，A︰Antecedent（前事）即是讓自己困擾的問題，就像這位女作家忘記不了年輕時被侵犯的傷痛。這和B︰Belief（信念）有莫大關係，可能她認為這是作為女性很大的恥辱，故精神及情緒不穩定。最後的C︰Consequence（結果），很可惜這位作家最終選擇了自殺作結。

心理治療談到一般人有四種「相應策略」去處理問題：一、積極面對（Active）︰但要積極面對首先要解決自己的信念，可能這位女作家覺得很羞愧，沒有向人傾訴，如果她主動尋求專業輔導可能不致走上絕路；二、逃避（Avoidance）︰有人會當沒事發生或選擇不處理，但問題始終會爆發；三、過度補償（Overcompensation）︰比方說我有一位朋友便因為失意而變得濫交；四、投降（Surrender）︰是完全放棄，這也是最危險的行為。所以，如果有情緒問題絕不能輕視先理解自己的信念對自己的影響，以及立即找尋專家的幫助，便可以修正信念，擊退心魔。

#A點之句︰修正信念 主動擊退心魔
Adjust our belief to get rid of the Demon in our mind.

"The importance of perfect technique"

In this video, I see a great lifter hang snatching 155KG and then leaning a little bit too much to the left and struggling to stand up. Clearly, it isn't strength that's his limiting factor here. I strongly believe it's his body's "comfort zone".

Let's just say for the sake of simplicity, his "comfort zone" is controlled by the part of the brain we call the "cerebellum". His active positions and movements (ones he's in control of), is controlled by his "cerebrum" aka the commander.

Now when we do something (Eg: lift) the commander, commands the movement. It instructs the body to do the movement desired. Now after a while, this movement goes into the comfort zone and becomes "one" with you.

Along the way though, the body picks up little things that you yourself may not be able to pay attention to while focusing on the bigger thing, like moving right under a barbell. These little things, may be where the body shifts its balance, which part of the body produces more force, etc. These are the deviations from the perfect movement.

Occasionally, the comfort zone pick up this deviation and thinks that it's the right way to do it. Then it ingrains itself, and wham bam, you're in for a massive headache. You now have to ask Mister Commander to get into Miss Comfort Zone and dig out the wrong compensatory pattern. The wrong compensation movement, is like finding a needle in a haystack. It's tough to pick out and sometimes, you don't even know how many needles there are in that damn stack.

The reason my coach barks at me like an angry rottweiler every time I make tiny adjustments like this is because he refuses to let me learn any wrong patterns. He's even yelled for me to drop the bar at times, even when I know I can get it if I run across the platform saving the bar. I understand today why.

It isn't the point. Saving the bar isn't the point for me. I'm good at saving bars. I've got a 120% snatch balance on top of my snatches at any given time without training. My issue's my pull. When I mess my pull up, I've gotten so good at saving that nonsense, this "advantage" has become a problem. I'm reliant on saving bad pulls. So he wants to nip this, and force me to pull properly. So no saving for me. It's pull, bam, stand.

The scariest thing you can do, is have an athlete improve with bad technique. This is especially the case with men. The moment we lift more, we think we're all king of the jungle. Among the Chinese coaches, nobody cares if you lift more in training with compensatory technique. Compensatory technique, is technique that's deviated from your original technique due to overcompensation with a motor pattern that you never originally used. Aka....luck, you moron.

This is the importance of perfect technique, that many people go "OOohh, yeah, the Chinese, perfect technique", but don't quite understand or embrace the importance.