Women and girls are blamed for the clothes that they wear but men don’t get questioned for assaulting. Women and girls are blamed for reporting their assaults but we pity the men for being ‘wrongly’ accused. Women and girls are separated from their families when the case goes to court but men are expected to lead the family hence, “lets be kind and not severely punish him.” Women and girls are blamed for drinking too much but men get away with it. Women and girls are blamed for passing out but it’s okay for men to rape the unconscious. Because? “She shouldnt have drank too much!” Women and girls are blamed for being alone with a guy but it’s okay for men to do that? Women and girls are blamed for speaking up against their assaulters but it’s totally fine for men to make sex jokes out of it. . What a life to live in being a woman ay. But it’s not the end. . Now look around you. Do you have a child in your life? If yes, start teaching them what consent is, why we should respect each other and not objectify each other. Teach and validate them that it’s okay to not be okay with certain gestures by people. . Next, look around you. Do you see a predator? If yes, speak up against him or her. Support the survivors and be in solidarity with them. Predators don’t deserve the benefit of the doubt because they didn’t even bother to think about the trauma that they might have caused a survivor. . Lastly, look around you. Do you see enablers? People who allow predators to continue to prey? Be careful of them because they will invalidate you. They will gaslight you and make you think that “hey I shouldn’t be overreacting.” . I’m here to tell you that if you feel attacked, harassed or assaulted, you have all the rights to feel that way. Cus for sure, predators do NOT have the rights to traumatize you. . For those who are still struggling, you are strong. Take your time and be with those who love and truly support you. For those who are healing, you are strong and I am truly proud of you. For those who are conflicted, help is there reach out. . It’s sexual awareness awareness month and it’s about time we end this shit.

//WHY I ONLY SHARE 1% OF MY LIFE ON SOCIAL MEDIA// When I was exposed to the technique through #Sociology1001, of being critical towards everything in society so to explain them, my brain has been constantly preoccupied with “#commercialization”, “#commodification”, “#gender”, “#sexuality”, “#objectification” etc. I have had a huge gap in understanding beauty after exposing myself to pageant when I was the most lost during the age of 19 after my eating issues. Due to #FragmentedSelfImage, I don’t know what was considered as “beautiful” as the reality that I had built about it was shattered. One course that I have taken while studying in Seoul #Yonsei(the best education that I have ever received: CULTURE, MEDIA AND THE POLITICS OF BEAUTY💋), I came to understand that many things about gender and sexuality are being commercialized so to be consumed. Not only being consumed by men, but women also internalize those norms to objectify themselves by following the trend to make their body part an object especially in this era of “Instagram” culture, not to mention men’s sexuality and body🍫 being commodified too. . 🍧MAIN REASON🍧 There’s more than I could articulate here. But, it’s one of the reasons which I have been feeling that I can’t post anything on social media because of how critical I have become and expect myself not to do what people have been enjoying doing just because I saw what’s behind it, even it’s just about sharing my life without any intention to conform to the norm. Hence, it was extremely painful to post those photos that people would love to see without me feeling easy, just like this one ☝🏽

🧶 像打開了衣櫃 像冬季的小背心 像夏天的厚外套 像衣服在T台上亂跑 像打開禮物盒子牛奶跌了一地 像外面的世界天旋地轉 而我在衣櫃裡抱著18歲買的那條prom dress 和你轉圈 - what if we objectify ourselves