True story and it didn’t just happen once…😳 My fiancé was one of them when we first started dating, his last brain cell eventually came thru! 😂 If anyone is STILL confused, I’m Malaysian by citizenship but Chinese by ethnicity…I feel like it’s pretty straightforward. Can anyone else relate? 🙈 - ##londonbloggers #londonblogger #londonbylondoners #londonliving #londondiaries #londoncitylife #londonist #londoners #ourstylecircle #creativegalgang #bloomandtell #immigrantchildren #immigrantstories #immigrant #immigrants #immigrantlife #foreignstudent #foreignstudents #internationalstudent #internationalstudentlife

The beginner’s time is so underrated… I hear this often: “I can’t pole dance, I don’t have the skills!” Me as a teacher: “That is ESSENTIALLY WHY my job exists 👀 “ But also: “Of course you don’t know how to do something BECAUSE you don’t have the skills! If you want to, LEARN” Can this be said about self-actualization? I spent my academic years in Chinese school up to age 12 in Malaysia, we were taught how to memorise like a bawse but give me open interpretation like a book essay, I almost failed Eng. Lit. my senior year in an American high school. My brain couldn’t compute why I was asked to write my thoughts on a book whose thoughts were clearly documented by the author. If you were an immigrant like me having to change your entire system of learning academically, I feel you ❤️ Whether it’s pole dancing or English Literature, salsa or intimacy…etc, we HAVE to explore different methods of learning. Why do we have to be good in things before the learning attempt? Why do we newbies expect competence in skills that take a master years to arrive at a level of comfort to even be called a master? What happened to our nature of play? Of curiosity? Since when have we spent our practice hours shaking our heads in frustration a hell lot more than shaking our assess in fun? Through projects like developing what I want @tacklingminds to encompass in resilience and @mentalmusclemafia in emotional fitness, clarity is gained at the speed of an inchworm BUT… it is movement, and likely the pace I NEED. Like our bodies, our brains need time to process and adapt. Spiritually speaking, so do our souls. Seek a teacher who never forgot how to he a beginner, it IS part of YOUR experience. May I invite you to OWN the beginner’s time? A beginner in pole dancing? A beginner in lifting? A beginner in honest conversations? A beginner in listening? A beginner in cultivating empathy? AMAZING. PROPS to starting and enjoying LEARNING & LIVING. Stay Curious, My Friends ❤️‍🔥 #ThisLessonAppliesButNotExactlyTheSameToMyLackOfSwimmingAbilities … 🎥 Beginner Combo at Beginner ExoticPole Class at @aerialartsacademy 🎶 @jaerichbro

How fucked up is it that because I have a boy, I’m not as worried for him as I would be if I had a girl? (Future Dallas - I love you) A hard truth for me to say so publicly, how many men want to unfollow me right now? Bye 👋🏻! I had to stop watching The Handmaid’s Tale because it fueled me with so much rage & infuriated me even more as I pumped watching it too. We grow up with periods starting from a young age and are to act like it’s nothing yet it’s the exact reason as to why we can birth the next generation. Why should I apologize for being emotional when I’m on my period? Why? We do pregnancy, give birth then do postpartum dealing with tearing, stitches, uterus shrinking contractions, breast engorgement, sore nipples, ab separation, hair loss, sleep deprivation & we’re supposed to be all smiles all the while? Oh And our period comes back at some point too Until menopause & yet we still earn less than men. “Worldwide, women only make 77 cents for every dollar earned by men. As a result, there’s a lifetime of income inequality between men and women and more women are retiring into poverty. This stubborn inequality in the average wages between men and women persists in all countries and across all sectors, because women’s work is under-valued and women tend to be concentrated in different jobs than men. Even though the work itself may require equal or more effort and skills, it’s valued and remunerated less. For women of colour, immigrant women and mothers, the gap widens. The so-called “motherhood penalty” pushes women into informal economy, casual and part-time work, and tends to be larger in developing countries than in developed countries.” -UN Women Lets just digest that And no, I’m not on my period #women #motherhood #female