#聯合報專欄

發現自己又好一陣子沒分享聯合報的專欄文章。從去年十月起，我開始以 #美食家 為題進行連載，目前有五篇文章，今天先分享頭二篇，希望大家喜歡。

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#試探討美食家的養成

美食家該怎麼當？這個問題始終在我心頭盤旋。本專欄自去年5月至今年3月疫情緊張前，都在探討美食家與美食評論，我認為「報社聘僱的餐廳評論人」是美食評論者中最明確的一類，於是從《紐約時報》於1960年代創設第一位餐廳評論人Craig Claiborne寫起，陸續介紹幾位美國食壇具有份量的食評。連載因疫情而中斷，如今再開，我又有一些新想法。

主要是受到朱宥勳近期新作《作家生存攻略：作家新手村1 技術篇》、《文壇生態導覽：作家新手村2 心法篇》的啟發。此二書十分有趣，前者探討作家的養成，一個「素人」可以如何「入行」，可以如何以文學創作為業，等等個人生存的技巧；後者探討「文壇」作為一個「確實存在的社會場域」，其生態是如何，有何「結構、階級、意識型態與價值偏好」。也就是說，朱宥勳身為一位從學生時代開始寫作、已累積成果的年輕作家，以其「過來人」的經驗寫出文學界的潛規則，揭露作家精神性的表面底下的俗務，卸除文壇與世隔絕的壁壘。當然，潛規則曝光後未必能改變業界生態，但至少讓局外人看明白，這局打的是什麼牌。

美食家是否可以比照辦理？

或許，美食家是比作家更虛無縹緲的「職業」。如果作家是靠寫作維生，美食家靠什麼維生？根據朱宥勳對於作家養成的分析，「入行」是指「第一次以文字或相關知識獲得報酬」，「專職」是指「能以文字或相關知識獲得足以支撐生活的報酬」。那麼，美食家可以如何利用自身技能獲得報酬？又如何能進一步成為專職並賴以維生？

追根究柢，美食家到底在做什麼？

恐怕得先從幾個名詞的區辨下手。美食家、美食評論家、美食作家，是否相同？三者是否可以互相代用？中文裡，美食家與美食評論家似乎同義，都可指稱善於品評飲食的人，具備鑑賞能力與專業知識；但在英文裡，美食家（gourmet、gastronome、epicure、gourmand）與美食評論家（food critic）略有不同，food critic特別指稱評析食物或餐廳的人，將其飲食經驗藉由「寫作」分享給大眾，通常為報章雜誌、旅遊指南、美食網站寫評論，為大眾提供判斷依據，其中更特定的類型就是本文開頭所說報社聘僱的餐廳評論人（restaurant critic）。由此可見，美食評論家是一種明確的職業。

既然談到寫作，又會與美食作家產生競合，以美國而言，有著作的美食評論家通常也會被視為美食作家（food writer），例如Ruth Reichl、Jonathan Gold、Adam Platt等人。可以這麼說：在美國，美食評論家、美食作家的形象比美食家更鮮明，也更多代表性人物。只要用Google分別查詢famous food writer、famous food critic與famous gastronome，就會發現，英語世界裡前二者的檢索結果遠多於後者。

那麼，美食家究竟是什麼樣的人？美食家是否寫作、是否能憑藉鑑賞美食維生，又與其身分構成有何關聯？以下，我將探討美食家需要具備什麼條件，以及美食家有何養成途徑。

原文連結：https://udn.com/news/story/7341/4903699

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#美食家的內涵釋義

美食家是什麼樣的人？是一種職稱嗎？是一種興趣嗎？若要繼續探討美食家的養成，必須先弄明白美食家的內涵，唯有如此才能知曉美食家志願者必須具備什麼條件。針對這個問題，英文詞彙給予我們豐富且細緻的說明。

是啊，中文裡，美食家就是美食家，還有什麼其他詞語可以指稱「愛吃的人」、「懂吃的人」？老饕或饕客吧，饕餮都嫌偏門，「饕」又予人一種貪得無厭感，不完全等同美食家。然而在英文裡，單單「美食家」就有gastronome、epicure、gourmand、gourmet等用語，涵義依其歷史脈絡稍微有異。

英國社會學家史蒂芬．門內爾（Stephen Mennell）在其知名著作《有關食物的一切禮儀》（All Manners of Food）中，娓娓道來以上幾種「美食家」的不同。他首先提到「美食學」（gastronomy）一詞，似乎是由法國詩人Joseph Berchoux在1801年所發明，作為他寫的一首詩的標題（La Gastronomie）；其後gastronomy一詞迅速在法國與英國流行起來，用以指稱「精緻飲食的藝術與科學」。Gastronome則是從gastronomy逆推而生的詞，用以指稱「美食的評判」（a judge of good eating）；十九世紀時英國另有gastronomer、gastronomist的用法，現已罕見。

與Gastronome相近的詞彙，尚有epicure、gourmand與gourmet，epicure與gourmand較老，gourmet則較新。Epicure的字根源於希臘哲學家伊比鳩魯（Epicurus），伊比鳩魯主張「最大的善來自快樂」，並將快樂區分為動態與靜態，前者指涉正在滿足慾望時的快樂，例如享受美食的快樂，後者指涉慾望滿足後因為平靜而產生的快樂，例如飽餐一頓的快樂。這樣的主張，使伊比鳩魯與「享樂主義」畫上等號，epicure一字因此一度帶有貪嘴暴食的貶義（接近glutton一詞）；不過在十九世紀初，尤其在英國，epicure開始獲得正面意涵，意指「為餐桌上的歡愉培養出精緻品味的人；對於吃喝有所選擇與挑剔的人。」

Gourmand一詞原本也有貪嘴的負面意思，後來在法國轉變為正面詞彙，例如十九世紀的知名美食家葛立莫．德．拉．黑尼葉（Alexandre-Balthazar-Laurent Grimod de la Reynière）創辦的美食雜誌《美食家年鑑》（Almanach des Gourmands），刊名就使用了gourmand一詞。十九世紀初，《牛津英語詞典》也賦予gourmand正面意涵，不過時至今日英語中gourmand仍時常隱含貪嘴的貶義，且與gourmet所代表的「具備細膩味蕾的人」有所區隔。

那麼gastronome呢？史蒂芬．門內爾認為，gastronome與上述諸詞有一關鍵差異：一名gastronome並不僅僅為了餐桌上的歡愉培養其精緻品味，藉由書寫，他同時協助他人培養精緻品味。「美食家（gastronome）不僅僅是一位講究吃喝的行家（gourmet），他同時是飲食品味的理論家（theorist）與宣傳者（propagandist）。」

於是，美食家似乎不能只是享受吃喝、懂得吃喝，他還必須能夠形成飲食的論述，而其論述，必須藉由寫作表達出來。這成為美食家與其他美食愛好者的重要區別。

原文連結：https://udn.com/news/story/7341/4974247

（我的Podcast #美食關鍵詞 也同步開啟美食家系列訪談，歡迎大家收聽！）

直到胖女人唱歌為止，它一直沒有結束，但是可悲的是，胖女人唱歌得太早了，脆弱的蝴蝶飛走了。

當我2000年在網上結識Charlene並打橋牌時，她是一位成功的女商人。她在網上訂購了許多法國和意大利產品，然後運往台灣，她嘗試了一切，她吃了任何東西，任何動物，水果或蔬菜的任何部分，食物都是她一生中很重要的一部分。 2000年我第一次在現實生活中遇見她時，她看上去就像電影明星。 2007年，這個女孩選擇放棄自己的生活，放棄了我們認為是家庭的最好的朋友，失去了她的工作，並賣掉了在台北的公寓與我同住。我告訴她：從現在開始，您將在餘生中度假，我信守諾言。

夏琳（Charlene）想要在荷蘭說些什麼，並開始在博客中建立新的個性，而不是利用她在台灣的名氣。她從零開始慢慢建立起來，如今在多個小組和平台中擁有超過213.000忠實的粉絲和追隨者。夏琳（Charlene）一直對旅行和歐洲美食感興趣，退休後的夢想是成為一名作家並住在屋頂傾斜的歐洲國家（尤其是法國或意大利）的房屋中。我們住在荷蘭一個不壞的公寓裡，屋頂平整，她非常喜歡這個溫馨的家庭。

在荷蘭，她開始寫烹飪書，在她變得更出名之後，一些出版商要求她翻譯書籍：例如尼吉拉·勞森，傑米·奧利弗和戈登·拉姆齊。即使在醫院進行重度化療時，她也一直在這樣做，甚至在她即將更正最新版本時也是如此。我們到了很多地方，都是隨機挑選的，只是四處逛逛，常常幾個小時都沒有遇到其他人或汽車。我們住在漂亮的公寓裡，大部分是在小城市和鄉村，或者在茫茫荒野中。我們看到了美麗的事物，吃了美味的食物，過著像本地人一樣的生活，輕鬆而
又沉悶。

自2017年10月以來，我和我的蝴蝶夏琳女王（Charlene）戰鬥了三年多。她獨自在醫院的無菌室里呆了6個月，我們已經隔離了一年多。起初，我們似乎可以戰勝這些可怕的癌症。這次夏琳只想要一點運氣，但無濟於事。夏琳心地善良，總是對他人意味著最好，她努力工作，堅韌而甜美，從不抱怨，對生活中的小事感到滿意。

從2020年8月開始，我們在意大利度過了最後兩個假期。錫耶納（Siena）讓她感到非常高興，“我有史以來最好的假期”。她的夢想是去第二個假期，直到下一個生日，我擔心那是非常樂觀的。夏琳對我們無法前往法國普羅旺斯的呂貝隆感到失望，因為我們最初計劃了第二個假期，2003年我們在此度過了第一次假期。不幸的是，荷蘭政府突然宣布法國的許多地區為“橙色”，我們剛預訂後就因為高電暈風險而禁止進入。西班牙也在名單上：一個我從未訪問過的國家，她想向我展示，西班牙全是橙色。

她完成了五件事，這在以前似乎幾乎是不可能的：我們2020年5月1日成立20週年，以及兩次浪漫的意大利長假。第一次去意大利的錫耶納和她最喜歡的Val d'Orcia，第二次去意大利的Lago Maggiore的斯特雷薩，那裡她的身體明顯較弱，但仍然非常欣賞令人嘆為觀止的景色和9月的夏日天氣，由於水的問題，再次搬到錫耶納（Siena），這使她感到自己在第二故鄉，感到非常高興！最近，她是荷蘭公民12年，而13年前移居荷蘭。我敢/希望認為這是因為她感到幸福，安全和得到了照顧。她的最終目標是她的生日（12月16日），很遺憾，這太樂觀了。

我們很享受，我們吃飯，我們哭了，我們笑了很多，我們彼此珍惜，我們聊了很多小時，一切都說了，不後悔。我們是一個。夏琳（Charlene）擔心我成為一個人，一個人呆著，為失去她感到難過，我為她錯過的一切感到非常抱歉，希望她能和我們在一起更長的時間。我們比以往任何時候都更加緊密。我非常愛她，她將永遠在我心中，會非常想念她！我好寂寞。

將來我會回到我們一起去過的地方。從4月底到2021年6月初，我們在意大利計劃，預訂並支付了“在電暈之后慶祝/征服癌症假期”的費用。如果Corona允許我，我現在仍然想走，但是那是對未來的“遙遠”，吸取了Charlene和我們過去的所有假期，我可能會稍作更改。我們計劃了很多事情，所以對你們所有人：Carpe Diem！不要延遲或推遲您的目標，願望或清單。我會保留她的個人資料，並嘗試不時發布一些內容，我不能總是閱讀所有評論並回复它們，但放心，我會注意到它們。對於跟隨Charlene到公寓和飯店旅行的朋友：請提及她以保持生命，以免被遺忘。

如果您決定做出回應，請做出有意義的回應。不要有空洞，空洞，無所事事或宗教用語，否則請不要回應，我倆都很好，我知道你也會想念她。

熊

It aint over till the fat lady sings, but sadly the fat lady sang too early and the fragile butterfly flew away.

When I met Charlene in 2000 online, playing bridge, she was a successful businesswoman. She ordered lots of French and Italian products online to ship to Taiwan, she tried everything, she ate anything, any part of any animal, any fruit or vegetable, food was an important part of her life. The moment I first met her in real life in 2000 to me she looked like a movie star. In 2007 this girl chose to give up her life, her best friends we consider family, her work and sold her apartment in Taipei to live with me. I told her: From now on you will be on a Holiday for the rest of your life and I kept my promise.

Charlene wanted to mean something in Holland and started to create a new personality in a blog, not using her fame from Taiwan. She slowly built it up from nothing and today has more than 213.000 loyal fans and followers in several groups and platforms. Charlene has always been interested in travel and European food and her dream after retirement was to become a writer and live in a house in a European country with a slanted roof, preferably in France or Italy. We lived in a not bad apartment in Holland with a flat roof which she loved so much, home sweet home.

In Holland she started to write cooking books, after she became more famous, she was asked by several publishers to translate books: Nigella Lawson, Jamie Oliver and Gordon Ramsay for instance. She has been doing this even when she was on heavy chemotherapy in hospital, even just before the end she was correcting the last version. We traveled to many places, randomly picked, just drove around, often not meeting any other person or car for hours. We stayed in beautiful apartments, mostly in small cities and villages or in the middle of nowhere. We saw beautiful things, ate fantastic food, lived life like a local, relaxed, but never a dull moment.

Charlene the truffle queen, my butterfly and I fought since October 2017 for more than three years. She has been in a sterile room alone in hospital for 6 months, we have been in quarantine for more than a year. At first it looked like we would conquer these horrible cancers. All Charlene wanted was a little luck this time, but to no avail. Charlene had a good heart and always meant the best for others, she worked hard, she was tough and sweet, she never complained, and she was happy with the little things in life.

From August 2020 we have been on our last two Holidays in Italy. Siena made her extremely happy, “My best Holiday ever” she said. Her dream was to go on a second Holiday and reach her next birthday, I was afraid that was quite optimistic. Charlene was disappointed we could not travel to the Luberon in the Provence in France, where we originally planned our second Holiday, where we had our first Holiday together in 2003. Unfortunately, the Dutch government suddenly declared many regions in France as “orange”, no go areas because of high Corona risks just after we booked. Spain was also on the list: A country I have never visited, and she wanted to show me, Spain was all orange.

Five things she accomplished, which earlier seemed nearly impossible: Our 20th anniversary May 1st, 2020 and two romantic long Holidays to Italy. The first to Siena, Italy and her favourite Val d’Orcia and the second to Stresa at Lago Maggiore, Italy where she was clearly weaker, but still immensely enjoyed the breathtaking views and the summery weather in September, where due to water problems we had to move, to Siena again, this made her feel at her second home, she was so happy! Recently she was a Dutch citizen for 12 years and moved to Holland 13 years ago. I dare/wish to think it was because she felt happy, safe and taken care of. Her final goal was her birthday (December 16th), unfortunately that was too optimistic.

We enjoyed, we dined, we cried, we laughed a lot, we cherished each other, we talked for many hours, everything has been said, no regrets. We were one. Charlene was worried for me to be and stay all alone and was sad for me losing her and I felt so sorry for all the things she missed out on, wished she would have stayed with us longer. We have been closer than ever before. I love her very much, she will always be in my heart, will miss her so much! I feel so lonely.

In the future I will go back to the places we have visited together. From the end of April till the beginning of June 2021 we planned, booked and paid an “after Corona, celebration / conquer cancer Holiday” in Italy. I now still want to go if Corona lets me, but that is “far” into the future, having learned from Charlene and all our past Holidays, I might change it slightly. We had planned so many things, so to all of you: Carpe Diem! Do not delay or postpone your goals, wishes or bucket list. I will keep her profile alive and try to post something now and then, I cannot always read all comments and reply to them, but rest assured, I will notice them. For the friends that follow Charlene’s travels to apartments and restaurants: Please mention her to keep her alive so that she will not be forgotten.

If you decide to respond, please respond meaningful. No hollow, empty, idle or religious phrases, else please do not respond at all, both are equally fine with me, I know you will miss her too.

Bear

直到胖女人唱歌為止，它一直沒有結束，但是可悲的是，胖女人唱歌得太早了，脆弱的蝴蝶飛走了。

當我2000年在網上結識Charlene並打橋牌時，她是一位成功的女商人。她在網上訂購了許多法國和意大利產品，然後運往台灣，她嘗試了一切，她吃了任何東西，任何動物，水果或蔬菜的任何部分，食物都是她一生中很重要的一部分。 2000年我第一次在現實生活中遇見她時，她看上去就像電影明星。 2007年，這個女孩選擇放棄自己的生活，放棄了我們認為是家庭的最好的朋友，失去了她的工作，並賣掉了在台北的公寓與我同住。我告訴她：從現在開始，您將在餘生中度假，我信守諾言。

夏琳（Charlene）想要在荷蘭說些什麼，並開始在博客中建立新的個性，而不是利用她在台灣的名氣。她從零開始慢慢建立起來，如今在多個小組和平台中擁有超過213.000忠實的粉絲和追隨者。夏琳（Charlene）一直對旅行和歐洲美食感興趣，退休後的夢想是成為一名作家並住在屋頂傾斜的歐洲國家（尤其是法國或意大利）的房屋中。我們住在荷蘭一個不壞的公寓裡，屋頂平整，她非常喜歡這個溫馨的家庭。

在荷蘭，她開始寫烹飪書，在她變得更出名之後，一些出版商要求她翻譯書籍：例如尼吉拉·勞森，傑米·奧利弗和戈登·拉姆齊。即使在醫院進行重度化療時，她也一直在這樣做，甚至在她即將更正最新版本時也是如此。我們到了很多地方，都是隨機挑選的，只是四處逛逛，常常幾個小時都沒有遇到其他人或汽車。我們住在漂亮的公寓裡，大部分是在小城市和鄉村，或者在茫茫荒野中。我們看到了美麗的事物，吃了美味的食物，過著像本地人一樣的生活，輕鬆而又沉悶。

自2017年10月以來，我和我的蝴蝶夏琳女王（Charlene）戰鬥了三年多。她獨自在醫院的無菌室里呆了6個月，我們已經隔離了一年多。起初，我們似乎可以戰勝這些可怕的癌症。這次夏琳只想要一點運氣，但無濟於事。夏琳心地善良，總是對他人意味著最好，她努力工作，堅韌而甜美，從不抱怨，對生活中的小事感到滿意。

從2020年8月開始，我們在意大利度過了最後兩個假期。錫耶納（Siena）讓她感到非常高興，“我有史以來最好的假期”。她的夢想是去第二個假期，直到下一個生日，我擔心那是非常樂觀的。夏琳對我們無法前往法國普羅旺斯的呂貝隆感到失望，因為我們最初計劃了第二個假期，2003年我們在此度過了第一次假期。不幸的是，荷蘭政府突然宣布法國的許多地區為“橙色”，我們剛預訂後就因為高電暈風險而禁止進入。西班牙也在名單上：一個我從未訪問過的國家，她想向我展示，西班牙全是橙色。

她完成了五件事，這在以前似乎幾乎是不可能的：我們2020年5月1日成立20週年，以及兩次浪漫的意大利長假。第一次去意大利的錫耶納和她最喜歡的Val d'Orcia，第二次去意大利的Lago Maggiore的斯特雷薩，那裡她的身體明顯較弱，但仍然非常欣賞令人嘆為觀止的景色和9月的夏日天氣，由於水的問題，再次搬到錫耶納（Siena），這使她感到自己在第二故鄉，感到非常高興！最近，她是荷蘭公民12年，而13年前移居荷蘭。我敢/希望認為這是因為她感到幸福，安全和得到了照顧。她的最終目標是她的生日（12月16日），很遺憾，這太樂觀了。

我們很享受，我們吃飯，我們哭了，我們笑了很多，我們彼此珍惜，我們聊了很多小時，一切都說了，不後悔。我們是一個。夏琳（Charlene）擔心我成為一個人，一個人呆著，為失去她感到難過，我為她錯過的一切感到非常抱歉，希望她能和我們在一起更長的時間。我們比以往任何時候都更加緊密。我非常愛她，她將永遠在我心中，會非常想念她！我好寂寞。

將來我會回到我們一起去過的地方。從4月底到2021年6月初，我們在意大利計劃，預訂並支付了“在電暈之后慶祝/征服癌症假期”的費用。如果Corona允許我，我現在仍然想走，但是那是對未來的“遙遠”，吸取了Charlene和我們過去的所有假期，我可能會稍作更改。我們計劃了很多事情，所以對你們所有人：Carpe Diem！不要延遲或推遲您的目標，願望或清單。我會保留她的個人資料，並嘗試不時發布一些內容，我不能總是閱讀所有評論並回复它們，但放心，我會注意到它們。對於跟隨Charlene到公寓和飯店旅行的朋友：請提及她以保持生命，以免被遺忘。

如果您決定做出回應，請做出有意義的回應。不要有空洞，空洞，無所事事或宗教用語，否則請不要回應，我倆都很好，我知道你也會想念她。

熊

It aint over till the fat lady sings, but sadly the fat lady sang too early and the fragile butterfly flew away.
When I met Charlene in 2000 online, playing bridge, she was a successful businesswoman. She ordered lots of French and Italian products online to ship to Taiwan, she tried everything, she ate anything, any part of any animal, any fruit or vegetable, food was an important part of her life. The moment I first met her in real life in 2000 to me she looked like a movie star. In 2007 this girl chose to give up her life, her best friends we consider family, her work and sold her apartment in Taipei to live with me. I told her: From now on you will be on a Holiday for the rest of your life and I kept my promise.

Charlene wanted to mean something in Holland and started to create a new personality in a blog, not using her fame from Taiwan. She slowly built it up from nothing and today has more than 213.000 loyal fans and followers in several groups and platforms. Charlene has always been interested in travel and European food and her dream after retirement was to become a writer and live in a house in a European country with a slanted roof, preferably in France or Italy. We lived in a not bad apartment in Holland with a flat roof which she loved so much, home sweet home.

In Holland she started to write cooking books, after she became more famous, she was asked by several publishers to translate books: Nigella Lawson, Jamie Oliver and Gordon Ramsay for instance. She has been doing this even when she was on heavy chemotherapy in hospital, even just before the end she was correcting the last version. We traveled to many places, randomly picked, just drove around, often not meeting any other person or car for hours. We stayed in beautiful apartments, mostly in small cities and villages or in the middle of nowhere. We saw beautiful things, ate fantastic food, lived life like a local, relaxed, but never a dull moment.

Charlene the truffle queen, my butterfly and I fought since October 2017 for more than three years. She has been in a sterile room alone in hospital for 6 months, we have been in quarantine for more than a year. At first it looked like we would conquer these horrible cancers. All Charlene wanted was a little luck this time, but to no avail. Charlene had a good heart and always meant the best for others, she worked hard, she was tough and sweet, she never complained, and she was happy with the little things in life.

From August 2020 we have been on our last two Holidays in Italy. Siena made her extremely happy, “My best Holiday ever” she said. Her dream was to go on a second Holiday and reach her next birthday, I was afraid that was quite optimistic. Charlene was disappointed we could not travel to the Luberon in the Provence in France, where we originally planned our second Holiday, where we had our first Holiday together in 2003. Unfortunately, the Dutch government suddenly declared many regions in France as “orange”, no go areas because of high Corona risks just after we booked. Spain was also on the list: A country I have never visited, and she wanted to show me, Spain was all orange.

Five things she accomplished, which earlier seemed nearly impossible: Our 20th anniversary May 1st, 2020 and two romantic long Holidays to Italy. The first to Siena, Italy and her favourite Val d’Orcia and the second to Stresa at Lago Maggiore, Italy where she was clearly weaker, but still immensely enjoyed the breathtaking views and the summery weather in September, where due to water problems we had to move, to Siena again, this made her feel at her second home, she was so happy! Recently she was a Dutch citizen for 12 years and moved to Holland 13 years ago. I dare/wish to think it was because she felt happy, safe and taken care of. Her final goal was her birthday (December 16th), unfortunately that was too optimistic.

We enjoyed, we dined, we cried, we laughed a lot, we cherished each other, we talked for many hours, everything has been said, no regrets. We were one. Charlene was worried for me to be and stay all alone and was sad for me losing her and I felt so sorry for all the things she missed out on, wished she would have stayed with us longer. We have been closer than ever before. I love her very much, she will always be in my heart, will miss her so much! I feel so lonely.

In the future I will go back to the places we have visited together. From the end of April till the beginning of June 2021 we planned, booked and paid an “after Corona, celebration / conquer cancer Holiday” in Italy. I now still want to go if Corona lets me, but that is “far” into the future, having learned from Charlene and all our past Holidays, I might change it slightly. We had planned so many things, so to all of you: Carpe Diem! Do not delay or postpone your goals, wishes or bucket list. I will keep her profile alive and try to post something now and then, I cannot always read all comments and reply to them, but rest assured, I will notice them. For the friends that follow Charlene’s travels to apartments and restaurants: Please mention her to keep her alive so that she will not be forgotten.

If you decide to respond, please respond meaningful. No hollow, empty, idle or religious phrases, else please do not respond at all, both are equally fine with me, I know you will miss her too.

Bear