【萬善之頭】The Origin of Virtuousness

今天是農曆七月初五，也是我唸報父母恩咒的第五天。

這咒我唸了十五的農曆七月了。

讀到許多觀眾留言，說因為我的直播，他們也在今年開始持這咒，我真的真的⋯⋯為你們的父母感到欣慰。😄

在華人的社會裡，一般來說，正正當當的賺錢孝敬父母、和顏悅色、奉公守法、傳宗接代，不做丟人現眼的事是基本的孝。

但這些在佛教裡，實屬小孝。

以這定義，我絕對是不孝女，因為有很多年我做生意負債時，一分錢都給不到父母，又不敢對他們坦白，只說沒錢。

好啦，如果您有本事，做生意成功，風光回鄉，讓您父母和祖宗十八代笑得見牙不見眼，那也只有中孝而已。

最大的孝，是修行，因為您能助您父母脫離六道，您們都不用再受輪迴之苦。

因此釋迦牟尼佛成佛時，祂的母親摩耶夫人便得升忉利天中，享天福。

您能先從一佛號、一佛咒開始，便已向修行的道路邁出第一步了！

不要小看報父母恩咒，因為這是釋迦牟尼佛所傳的。所以各位大德，千萬要記得這一點 - 一定要教您的孩子和您一起唸報父母恩咒！👧🏻👦🏻

做父母的，要懂得投資啊！百善孝為先，孩子小小年紀就懂得盡孝，就有了人最基本的良知，為自己種下了廣大的福田。就算以後您不在他們的身邊，他們也必會遇到貴人扶持，命運不會太壞，只因為他們是孝子孝女。

再說了，萬一您有什麼三長兩短，修行失敗，還有個後代可以助您！錯過了蓮花捷運，到不了佛國淨土，到天界做天人，總比擠在一堆骨灰盎裡好呀！😂

報父母恩咒：「南無密栗哆。哆婆曳。梭哈」
Nan Mo Mi Li Duo Duo Po Yi Soha

（我是修真佛密法的，因此此咒結尾，我是依著我師尊的唸音，唸「梭哈」。這代表圓滿、成就的意思。）

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報父母恩咒49遍: https://youtu.be/a9XbKo6_L6E
唸報父母恩咒有何功德：https://youtu.be/x-7GPmbq5nw

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Today is the 5th day of the 7th Lunar month, and also my fifth day of reciting the Mantra of Repaying the Debt of Gratitude to Parents this year.

I have been reciting this mantra for fifteen years.

I read many comments from my viewers, that they started reciting this mantra this year after watching my Lives. I am so glad for your parents. 😄

In our Chinese society, generally speaking, the most basic forms of filial piety include:

1) making a honest living to give pocket money to our parents
2) being pleasant towards our parents
3) not breaking the law
4) carrying on the family lineage
5) not doing any shameful act

However, in the eyes of the Dharma, these are merely small acts of filial piety.

Going by this definition, I am definitely an unfilial daughter. Because there were many years when I got into debt from doing business and was unable to give my parents a single cent. I could not bring myself to tell them the truth and could only say I was broke.

Okay, if you are more capable than me congratulations on your big-time success in doing business! So you return to your homeland in triumphant victory and see your parents + ancestors of the past 18 generations grinning from teeth to teeth.

That is just the medium level of filial piety.

The biggest form of filial piety is spiritual cultivation. For you can help your parents to break free from the six realms of reincarnation and all of you will no longer have to undergo the sufferings of birth and death.

Hence, when Shakyamuni Buddha attained Buddhahood, his deceased mother, Queen Maya, ascended to Trayastrimsas Heaven to enjoy heavenly pleasures.

When you start reciting one Buddha’s name, or one Buddhist mantra, you have already taken your first step onto the path of Buddhist cultivation.

Do not belittle the Mantra of Repaying Debt of Gratitude to Parents, for it was expounded by Shakyamuni Buddha.

So to all my noble audience, please remember this very important point - you must teach your children to recite this mantra together with you! 👧🏻👦🏻

As parents, we should all be astute investors. Filial piety is the most important of all virtues. When a child knows how to be filial from a young age, he/she already has the most basic conscience as a human, and that will sow the seeds for fields of great blessedness.

Come one day when you can no longer be by your child’s side, your child will definitely meet many benefactors in the life path and not have a wretched destiny, because they are filial from young.

Moreover, if anything untoward happen to you and you fail miserably in your spritual cultivation, at least you still have a descendant to help you.

Should you miss the lotus train to the Buddha’s Pureland, to be a celestial being in the Heaven far surpasses the fate of being squeezed like sardines in a urn placed in the columbarium. 👻

報父母恩咒：「南無密栗哆。哆婆曳。梭哈」
Nan Mo Mi Li Duo Duo Po Yi Soha

(I practices the True Buddha Tantric Dharma, thus I follow my Root Guru’s recitation sounds and recite “soha” at the end of this mantra. This represents perfection and accomplishment.）

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Mantra to Repay Debt of Gratitude to Parents x 49: https://youtu.be/a9XbKo6_L6E
Merits of this mantra：https://youtu.be/x-7GPmbq5nw

https://tuanuu.tw/filial-piety-gay/

很多華人文化中的出櫃同志，面臨到的第一個指責是什麼？華人文化才不會跟你玩背棄上帝，聖經自助餐那套。他們談的是不孝。

「你同志，你不孝！」

※孝順與傳宗接代

為什麼不孝？因為沒有辦法給爸媽抱孫。沒有辦法給爸媽抱孫很嚴重嗎？事實上真的很多人繼續相信「不孝有三，無後為大。」對於這些長輩來說，幸福的樣貌就是長命百歲、兒孫孝順、面子十足。這裡面除了「活著」這件事情，剩下的都跟後代繁衍與社會觀感綁一起。

你只要想一件事情就好：每次有人提到「老年的幸福人生」的時候，中式關於老年幸福人生的想像幾乎只有「長命百歲」、「子孫滿堂」、「孝子賢孫」 然後就沒了！沒有老年的興趣規劃，生命成就。關於老年後的幸福的想像除了活著之外，幾乎都綁在了孩子甚至孫子身上。

拿走「後代」等同直接打擊這些長輩對於後半輩子幸福的想像。

其實稍微觀察一下，老一輩對於男同志的反感遠遠大於女同志。甚至在同婚議題中有老一輩討論聚焦在：「怎麼辦！會有別的男人來跟我兒子結婚！分我家家產！」這種焦慮來自繁衍焦慮、姓氏繼承、財產傳承等等。由於以上種種因素，長輩對於男同志的抗拒與反感遠遠大於女同志。

就連護家懵在電視中進行公投辯論，也往往只聚焦攻擊男同志，攻擊男同志的性，忽略甚至無視女同志的存在。

仔細觀察一下，你也可以看到很多同志(尤其是男同志)只要有了有血緣的後代，長輩的焦慮跟反抗就會降低許多。因為關於繁衍的焦慮消失了，幸福的想像延續了！

(一定要是有血緣的喔！領養的不行，別人的基因也不行！)

※孝順與面子

講完同志議題中的孝順與傳宗接代，接下來談談孝順與面子。延續前面所說：華人文化中的出櫃同志，面臨到的第一個指責是：「你同志，你不孝！」

不孝的原因是給爸媽丟臉。

丟臉的原因是什麼？因為同志被汙名化，尤其同志的性被骯髒化，甚至病毒化。所以有了同志兒女就等於沒面子。你/妳怎麼就不能乖乖聽爸媽的話不要當個同志呢？

華人文化中給父母長臉就是孝順啊！給父母丟臉就是不孝啊！

華人文化中服從父母就是孝順，忤逆父母就是不孝啊！

不覺得邏輯哪邊有錯嗎？

父母的榮譽心，甚至是虛榮感為什麼要孩子負責？然後把這個責任便成了孝順的一環？

真的是服從父母等於孝順嗎？明明孝經裡面就寫著：「故當不義，則子不可以不爭於父……故當不義則爭之，從父之令，又焉得為孝乎？」意思是遇見了不義的事，做子女不可不向父親婉言諫諍的……假若為人子的，一味地聽從父親，而陷親於不義，那還能算是孝道嗎？

實際上華人文化裡的「孝順」容易變成不問是非，單純要求服從的權力壓迫。

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這篇文章的內容之前已經在fb分享過一次，但是網友告訴小逸，我當時的分享裡面插了一個聯結。所以轉錄的時候會變成只轉了那個聯結，沒有辦法全文轉載，所以乾脆整理成一篇文章。

《互相尊重的認知》
Understanding Mutual Respect (English version below)

吾有兩位女學生，犯了佛教的「不飲酒」戒。

一位30歲左右的，說是公司聚會，上司一直叫她喝，不好拒絕。吾弟子問她，明明是白領佳人，難不成還得兼職「陪酒小姐」？

這位學生，也因爲飲酒，而多次欺騙老公與公婆，說是在公司加班。

另一位學生是位中年婦女。她受老闆之託，旅行回國時幫老闆買酒。她也說，不懂得如何拒絕老闆。

這位中年婦女與吾皈依同一位根本上師，當代法王蓮生活佛，卻藐視根本上師的教義，忤逆吾的教誨。她從不好好閱讀根本上師的文集與開示，一直祇求吾以風水八字來解決她家人的問題，治標不治本。

因此，她忽略了師佛近期的開示：「拿酒給人喝，犯了不飲酒戒，五百世沒有手。」

（如蚯蚓等動物。）

這兩位學生，同樣的都沒告訴老闆她們的戒律。

妳自己都不尊敬妳的信仰，不會有人尊重妳的信仰。

如果妳不開妳的金口，介紹妳信仰的戒律給他人，他人又怎麼知道妳有這條戒律呢？

如果說出來了，他自然不會叫妳買酒或帶妳去喝酒。

自己要先有守戒的精神。如果妳沒有，妳一定也是爲了不好意思或怕炒魷魚，就這樣犯戒。

這個世界上不是只有一份工作可以做。

如果妳明知故犯，折了這個福，妳認為妳未來還會有好的發展嗎？

我們所要的一切都是建立在德。

天，因爲有德，所以常覆，地有德，所以常載，日月星有德，所以常照。

人要有德，才能夠常順、常旺、常樂。

妳不能說妳怕拒絕，以免什麼會發生在妳身上。東家不打打西家，人要有志氣，要有守戒的精神，才會得善神的擁護。

妳自己都不尊重妳的信仰，試問人家怎麼會尊重妳的信仰呢？他看妳也不過是那種人，可能暗地裡還瞧不起妳，覺得妳外表說妳已皈依，原來妳根本沒有皈依，還是犯戒。

千萬不要這樣做。

做爲一個老闆，一個上司，必須要以德服人。下屬因爲是你的員工，她當然不敢得罪你，冒犯你，因爲她需要這個薪水來養家或過活。就算她爲了順從你，而犯戒，你在她心中的形象一定大打折扣。如果有一天，她有了另外一份工作邀約，她一定不考慮就走，因爲她覺得你是一個敗德的上司，不值得她忠心。

如果她留下來，那必定只有一個原因，因爲她也敗德。敗德的上司 + 敗德的下屬，能做出什麼好成績來？

學佛人，得懂得匡正自己，也匡正別人，所以必須得解釋給妳老闆，或任何不明白的人，妳你爲何會拒絕他做某樣事情，尤其是買賣酒、買賣煙、買賣色情刊物等等。

大家要明白什麼叫戒律，戒律不是有宗教信仰的人，才要守的律法。戒律是一個正人君子的準則，是止惡揚善的基礎，根本沒有分誰應該守。

只要是人，都必須守。走在正道上，沒有過失下，才不會損失我們的福德。

那位中年婦女的老闆，「勸」吾的學生不必執著戒律，佛陀不是說斷執著嗎？

沒有皈依學佛的，千萬不要不懂裝懂，以免斷人慧命，造了殺生業。

佛陀涅槃時，阿難問佛：「佛在世時，我們以佛為師，佛滅度後大眾以何為師呢？」

佛言：「以戒為師。」

喝酒，會亂人本性，生出無量的過失，如酒後駕駛、醉酒打人、儀態盡失、胡言亂語、淫慾熾盛、惡人相近等等。

一位老客人，七旬老翁，生性節儉。一家大小雖是佛教徒，老翁卻酗酒成性。長子乃吾弟子，之前爲了迎合父親要求，常買酒「供養」他。

後來，媳婦（也是吾弟子也）顧及老翁的健康和戒律，阻止先生助紂為虐，也勸其家婆、小姑和弟弟不要買酒，卻惹來老翁辱罵長子：「沒有用！」

事隔數年，老翁喝壞了身體，今年年中入院開刀。吾於心不忍，以玄學來幫助這位老客人能早日康復。

喝酒的人愚癡，送酒的人愚孝。

吾，玳瑚師父，滴酒不沾，任何有酒精的食物，吾也不食。不飲酒者，有何果報？

意念清明，智慧超群，不會精神分裂、不會神智恍惚、不會胡思亂想，更不會被迷惑。

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2 of my female students flouted the Buddhism precept of abstinence from alcohol.

One of them, in her early 30s, told me that it was a company gathering, and her supervisor egged her to drink. She could not refuse. My disciple asked her, isn't it absurd that as a white-collared employee, she has to "part-time" as a drinking hostess?

This student of mine also lied to her husband and parents-in-laws numerous times, that she was working overtime when, in fact, she was out drinking.

Another student of mine is a middle-aged lady, who was requested by her superior to buy duty-free alcohol on her return from travelling. She also told me that she did not know how to say no to her boss.

This lady, like me, took refuge under the same Root Guru, Living Buddha Lian Sheng. However, she blantantly ignored His Teachings and my reminders. She did not diligently read the Dharma books and discourses from our Root Guru Master, yet always sought my help in Feng Shui and Bazi to solve her family woes. This is not solving the root causes at all.

Hence, she missed out on a recent Dharma discourse by our Root Guru: If you give alcohol to others, you are breaking the precept of abstinence from alcohol, and the consequence is 500 rebirths without limbs.

(Eg. like a millipede)

These 2 students did not tell their superiors of their precepts.

If you do not respect your own faith, nobody will give your faith the due respect too.

If you don't break your silence and let others know about the precepts in your religion, how would others know about your precept on abstinence from alcohol?

If you voice it out, naturally your superior will not ask you to buy alcohol nor bring you along for drinking sessions.

You must first have the spirit to uphold the precepts, lacking which you will be easily swayed by situations such as embarrassment or fear of losing your job, and eventually flouting the precepts.

There is more than one job for you in this world.

If you flout the precepts intentionally, and lose your merits, what good future do you think is left for you?

Our merit and virtues are the source of all that we desire.

The Heavens and Earth have virtues , therefore can encompass all. The Sun, moon and the stars have virtues, hence their never ending radiance.

Man must have virtues, in order to enjoy peace, prosperity and bliss.

You cannot give the excuse that you fear the consequence of saying no. There is always another job out there. A person must have higher aspirations, and the willpower to observe the precepts in order to be blessed by the virtuous gods.

If you do not respect your own faith, how would another person respect it? He will not be impressed, and may even secretly despise you for being a hypocrite in taking refuge, as you are not steadfast in upholding your precepts.

Do not ever do this.

As a boss, as a superior, you must command the respect of your subordinates with your merits and virtues. It is natural that your subordinate will not dare to offend you because she needs the job and salary to make a living or feed their families.

Even if she follow your instructions, at the expense of flouting her precepts, deep in her heart, she will think lesser of you. If one day she receives another job offer, she will not hesitate to leave you because she feel that you are lacking in virtues and unworthy of her loyalty.

If she stays on, then it must be for the reason that she too is lacking in virtues. A non-virtuous superior + a non-virtuous employee, what good result can they produce?

A practicing Buddhist must learn to correct oneself, and others. Therefore, you need to explain to you boss, or any other people who do not understand your rationale, why you refuse to help him/her in certain things such as buying alcohol, cigarettes, R-rated publications, etc.

Everyone must understand what exactly precepts are. It is not applicable solely to people with a religious faith. Precepts are the cornerstone of a upright and righteous human being. They are the foundation of spreading goodness and curbing the non-virtuous in us, and applicable to every one of us

As long as you are human, you should observe the precepts. Walking on the right path, and not committing any sin, will ensure that our merits are not taken away.

The boss of my middle-aged student "advised" her not to be too attached to the precepts. Didn't Buddha proclaim non-attachment? So said the boss.

If one has not taken refuge and properly learn the Dharma, please do not behave like a know-it-all and dish out irresponsible "advice" to others. This grave act of recklessness may destroy the life of wisdom in the listener, akin to the act of killing.

When Lord Buddha was about to enter Nirvana, his disciple, Ananda, asked, "When the Buddha is in this world, He is revered as our Teacher. But when the Buddha enters Nirvana, who should we follow as our Teacher?"

Buddha expounded: "I have already given you the precepts. The precepts are your teacher".

Drinking alcohol will create chaos to the human nature, and countless sins arise, such as drunk driving, drunk fighting, loss of etiquette, blabbering of nonsense, sexual indecency, attracting bad company, etc.

An old client of mine, in his 70s, lives frugally. Together with his wife and children, they are Buddhists. However, the elderly man is an alcoholic.

His eldest son is my disciple. Previously, to make his father happy, he would buy him liquor and beer whenever the elderly man asks for it.

Subsequently, his wife (also my disciple) prevented him from buying alcohol, out of consideration for the elderly man's health and their precepts. They also told the mother and younger siblings to refrain from buying.

However, all the eldest son got was a bellow of "Useless son!" from the elderly man.

A few years later, alcoholism took a toil on the old man and he was warded for an operation in the middle of this year.

I pitied him and helped him towards a smoother recovery with my Metaphysics abilities.

Deluded is the man who drinks.

Ignorant is the filial piety of the children who feed his alcoholism.

I have abstained from intoxicants for over a decade, and neither do I consume food with alcohol in it.

What are the merits from such abstinence?

Beside mental clarity and supreme wisdom, one will not be stricken with schizophrenia, mental disarray, mental disturbance and fall prey to temptations.

關於我講中文的弱點的問題，在討論區的討論應該放回上facebook，因為討論相當有水準，很多網友都相當有見識。但我覺得有時思維還不是很準確，要把件事分割成幾部分去看。首先﹐甚麼是中文的先天性問題，除非改成不是中文，否則是不能改變。第一，中文是全世界唯一非拼音文字。看一個抽象圖形，然後記住那個抽象圖形，然後用這個抽象圖形來思考。而拼音文字是一套密碼，由廿六個字組成不同的密碼，把它加上音，然後聯結一個意義。兩者的進路是不同。我是最近看神經科學家，才豁然大悟，影像思維是直接和快。但相反，要記住一大堆的影像，那是用多了腦內的記憶體。於是難以進入抽象思維，所以中國難以出現抽象思維很厲害的哲學家。這是中國的第一先天問題。
第二，因為中文是單音字。那把字組合而成新字，那好處是少很多字。康熙字典有四萬多字，但牛津字典有幾十萬字。因為把字組合的時候，字本身有其意義，組合成新詞的時候，也帶有舊有的意思，於是很難釐清。而其他語言，作一個新字就沒有了歷史包伏，只是純粹一個解釋，會簡單很多。中文文字是靠組合而來，這是第二個問題。

先天性問題上，是不是所有用中文的人都不能作高度抽象的思維。那又不是，自小去了外國讀書，會用英文思考，或者用數字思考。其實數學是用數字思考，那又是一種抽象思維，所以都是會有人做到，但是比較難。用中文同時可以抽象思維，加上英文去思維。所以中國偉大的科學家，大多是在美國讀書，不是完全做不到，但只是難很多。

另外，還要分開中文後天的問題。我要怎麼解釋給大家聽甚麼叫做後天的問題，剛才講的是原罪，除非不用中文，否則是不可改變，把中文改成拼音，那當然可以吧。但中文改做拼音，就要標聲調，否則讀不準確，於是又要作一個標聲系統去鑑別字的讀音是哪一個調，否則意義就不準確。中文字如果沒有調，意思就不太準確。這是中文不能拼音的理由。
第二，文字很長時間是要來做甚麼功能，因為做了某功能而向那方向發展，於是發展向那功能更仔細。舉例，阿拉斯加長期見到雪，所以他們對雪也有十多種名詞，但我們看雪就只是雪。中國人二千年來，用中文想最多的是想食，所以我們對食很講究，對煮法等都十分精巧。第二個東西是道德。由儒家思想到現在，大家都深研道德，所以我們的道德很複雜，「孝悌忠信禮義廉恥」幾乎在英文找不到相對的字出來，孝，英文會用Filial piety，但其實都有點出入。孝有多層次，中文發展兩千年，主要來講道德和作詩。為何話中文沒可能話很準確和客觀，因為中文沒用來做兩件事。自大憲章以來，英文用來寫法律，寫法律之後，大家會爭論，之後會決定當中的意思，一直發展了七百年，這有齊釋義，每個字的解釋。同一本法律，基本法的中文和英文來看，就會看到分別。英文就是準確。因為法律是要爭辯，之後大家會理清當中的意思，自然愈來愈準確。而準確性又影響回日常的英語。第二，是科學。科學力求客觀，不能帶感性語言。而文就是全部都是感性語言。所以一用中文講道理便吵架，變了傷害和侮辱。科學討論不可以吵架，完全是講道理。這寫科學訓練，由牛頓到現在已四百多年，別人用四百多年來發展。不只是中文，法文意大利文寫科學上來，也比英文差很遠。英文就是客觀很多，因為那科學的基礎，而且也會影回日常生活之中。這是互相影響。這是後天的東西，若去抄人當然會容易一點。因為現在不認真行法治，若大家搞清楚所有東西，減少法律的歧義，過多百年，中文也可以達到英文的水平。這不是不可能，這是後天的問題，而現在的狀況就是不夠客觀，和太感性了，所以不準確




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