[What I am reading now目前正在看: "Option B" by Sheryl Sandberg]

看這本書, 完全是衝著Mrs. Sandberg(FB的COO)而看的. 這本還沒有中文譯本, 但是如果中文本出來的話, 我非常推薦生命中曾經或是正在經歷不遂順的朋友看看. 裡面有些想法相當地引人深思. 書裡有句話, 我以前就看她提過. 再看一次, 覺得還是寫的很好(我以前也在這邊分享過): When life pulls you under, you can kick against the bottom, break the surface, and breathe again. 她提到的3個P(請見下方)也寫得非常好.

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Sheryl Sandberg認為，正是那些艱難的日子決定你成為什麼樣的人，人的價值不單是來自成就，也是在逆境活下去的勇氣。她提到理解心理學中的三個P的迷思能夠幫助我們面人生的失落。

以下摘錄她演講中提到的三個P：Personalization, Pervasiveness, Permanence，

Personalization
“The first P is personalization—the belief that we are at fault. This is different from taking responsibility, which you should always do. This is the lesson that not everything that happens to us happens because of us.”
心理學迷思1：個人化
「第一個P是個人化，以為都是自己的錯。這和負責任是兩回事，負責任指的是你做了該做的事。我們要知道：並不是所有發生在我們身上的事情，都是因我們而起。」

Pervasiveness
“The second P is pervasiveness—the belief that an event will affect all areas of your life. You know that song “Everything is awesome?” This is the flip: “Everything is awful.” There's no place to run nor hide from the all-consuming sadness.”
心理學迷思2：普遍性
「第二個P是普遍性。以為一件事一旦發生，整個人生都搞砸了。記得一首歌 《一切好極了》嗎？這種心情正好相反，叫《一切糟透了》，當人被悲傷消耗殆盡，根本無處可逃。」

(c) Permanence
“The third P is permanence—the belief that the sorrow will last forever. For months, no matter what I did, it felt like the crushing grief would always be there.…Instead, we should accept our feelings—but recognize that they will not last forever.”
心理學迷思3：永久性
「第三個P是永久性，以為傷痛會永遠揮之不去。有好幾個月，無論我做什麼，我還是感到破碎的哀傷走都揮之不去。…我們應該接受自己的感覺，但要知道它們不會永遠都在。」

At the end of the speech, she expected all the Berkeley graduates to trust themselves that they could go through any difficulties. Build resilience in yourselves! When the challenges approach, I hope you (2) bear in mind that only by inner strength can you (3) prevail against life's ups and downs. As the saying goes: we are more vulnerable than we ever thought, but we are stronger than we ever imagined.
演講最後，她期勉柏克萊畢業生，相信自己有能力度過任何難關。在挫折中建立自己的復原力，當挑戰來時，請牢記只有倚靠你內在的力量才能戰勝人生的波折，就如同俗話說的：我們比自己認為的還要脆弱，但我們也比自己想像得還要強大。