這位很牛的男人，是我爸爸！

話不多，但很實在！
有他在身邊，覺得無比安全。

以前讀北一女，補習完坐火車回家都很晚，
有一回，我錯過尋常該搭的火車，
下一班火車又嚴重大誤點，
心急如焚的我也沒想到應該先打公共電話通知家人(是的，那時還沒有手機這種發明🤷🏻‍♀️)，
回到基隆已經快要凌晨了。

我心急如焚抄小路回家，
媽媽驚訝地說：爸爸擔心妳，十點半就在家門附近的十字路口等妳呀！
我趕緊衝出門去找爸爸，
在諾大又空曠的馬路邊，
我看到爸爸厚實的背影(是的，他沒有在撿橘子🍊)，
真的好想撲過去抱住他說聲謝！

可是那時的我只會吶吶地說：爸，我已經回來了。
爸爸沒有責備，就只是安靜地守護我回家。

這是我的父親，一位我因為防疫不能回娘家看他但想他時心就會揪緊一下眼眶濕濕的男人。

這位衝浪手，是我先生。
和我的婚姻路，他刀裡來火裡去，連大風大浪也要衝。
因為他老婆在講台上威風八面，回家就是廢柴。
就連今天他老婆起床時，他都已經準備好早餐、洗曬好衣服了。
而且，他怕太太，
或者，太太怕他！？

這兩位是王主任、李主任，
和我比愛心的是李傑老師，
他們帶領我走過職涯的風風雨雨，
許多富有智慧的人生建議，助我披荊斬棘。
沒有他們，沒有補教業的林俐。

還有好多令人尊敬的父親，
害羞內斂不曝光默默支持媳婦的我公公，
還有已經為人父的親戚、朋友、同事、學生把拔，
祝福你們平安健康❤️❤️❤️

今天送上「父親字根篇」～

👨🏻 patr-: father 👨🏻

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💙 俐媽英文教室—字根字首字尾篇patr:
👨‍👧‍👦 paternal (a.) 父親的
👨‍👧‍👦 patriarchy (n.) 父權/系社會
👨‍👧‍👦 patriarchal (a.) 族長的；家長的
👨‍👧‍👦 patrician (a.) 貴族的；顯貴的
👨‍👧‍👦 patriciate (n.) 貴族地位
👨‍👧‍👦 patriot (n.) 愛國者
👨‍👧‍👦 patriotic (a.) 愛國的
👨‍👧‍👦 patrilineal (a.) 父系的
👨‍👧‍👦 patron (n.) 保護者；老主顧
👨‍👧‍👦 patronage (n.) 保護；援助
👨‍👧‍👦 patrilateral (a.) 父系親屬的
👨‍👧‍👦 patrimonial (a.) 世襲的；祖傳的
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各種父親的說法 ➡️ #俐媽英文教室父親篇

I love Papa!

#俐媽英文教室
#俐媽英文教室字根字首字尾篇
#俐媽英文教室字根字首字尾篇patr
#父親節快樂
#happyfathersday
#台大明明百萬計畫有個人抽獎
#也有孝親獎
#認真上課考試給把拔一個大禮🎁
#各位爸爸辛苦了🙇🏻‍♀️🙇🏻‍♂️

The transformation of the Galerie des Glaces in the Château de Versailles to host the unveiling of the Autumn-Winter 2021-2022 collection on.dior.com/aw2021-22 by Maria Grazia Chiuri played on its famous mirrors and the symbolism of looking glasses in fables and fairy tales. Artist Silvia Giambrone reinterpreted some of her own oeuvre in a series of opaque mirrors called 'La Galerie des Ombres', replacing the reflective surface with wax and adding threatening thorns crafted from resin. An inversion of the idea of patriarchal power in a palace built as a statement of it, her sculptures communicate the ambiguity of the dueling concepts of beauty and conflict. As the Creative Director noted, they represent women's love-hate relationships with their own reflections, being drawn to the mirror and then unable to face the less than ideal image they find staring back at them.
© Film by Melinda Triana

我一直以來都認為某些事情「太女生」而完全不會想去做，例如接睫毛、做指甲、穿高跟鞋、穿有蕾絲的衣服之類的。我也下意識去找一些跟我差不多的女生朋友，所以當我們聚在一起的時候不是討論時尚或感情，而多半是在討論推廣素食。

從小我就壓抑自己感性、愛照顧人、有同理心的一面，而偏向注重自己領導、批判、犀利的特質。我討厭開口求人幫忙，因為這樣讓我感到脆弱；我討厭承認自己犯錯，因為這就好像世界末日；我討厭表達難過，所以通常假裝自己壓根不在意。

幾千年來，我們已經創造了一個一昧尊崇男子氣概而打壓女性特質的文明。打壓之成功，以至於連女性都內化了這樣的壓迫，採用了壓迫者的那種控制心態和模式。在父權社會下，一個女人通常是用父權社會的遊戲規則勝出了男人後，才被認為是成功的。相反，一個男人要是不夠有所謂的男子氣概，就會被歧視、嘲笑。這一切創傷都太深了，需要我們逆轉長久以來多少學習到的東西，才能夠取得平衡。

我自己也是一年多前才開始意識到，原來女性是有可能接納並擁抱我們富有女性特質的一面的。而我有時候也還是感到很抗拒。所以我寫這篇不是因為我已經做得很成功想分享，而是想邀請所有跟我一樣對自己女性特質感到不自在的女孩，一起踏上這趟旅程。我們是多面向的個體，擁抱自己的所有面向，不但是更健康的，在我看來，也會讓我們的行動更真誠、更有愛，也更能為自己和他人帶來療癒。婦女節快樂。❤️

(照片是去年十月參加一個專屬女孩們的Wanderlette retreat)

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I’ve always felt uncomfortable with things that I deem too “girly.” Things like getting eyelash extensions, getting your nails done, wearing high heels, wearing lace, etc. I also subconsciously choose women friends who are more like me. So when we get together, we talk more about activism than fashion or dating.

Growing up, I suppressed the side of me that was emotional, nurturing, and empathic, and only valued my dominating, critical, and sharp characteristics. I hated asking for help because it put me in a vulnerable position. I hated admitting I was wrong because it felt like annihilation. I hated showing my sadness so I usually pretended I didn’t care.

Over thousands of years, we have created a distorted civilization that overwhelmingly values masculinity over femininity, to the point that even the feminine internalized the oppression and adopted the paradigm of control of the oppressors. A woman is more likely to be considered “successful” if she outperforms men by the rules of a patriarchal society. A man is looked down upon if he’s not “manly” enough. There’s so much wounding. So much unlearning is needed to restore balance.

I’ve only begun to be aware of the possibility of embracing my femininity since a bit more than a year ago. And from time to time I still feel resistant. So I’m really not writing this as someone who has “figured things out,” but as an invitation to other women like me who may also feel uncomfortable with their femininity. It’s beautiful and healthy to embrace all that we are, and I believe when we do, we can bring more open-heartedness, love and healing into our actions. Happy International Women’s Day. ❤️

(photo taken during a Wanderlette sisterhood retreat in Oct 2020 with a group of amazing women)

#婦女節 #womensday2021

女人少點智慧，因此少點牙齒？子宮可以在體內遊走？別詫異！這些有關女性身體的理解謬誤，你都聽過嗎？

閱讀更多：http://hokkfabrica.com/hftv/patriarchal-myths-about-women-bodies

Is Religion banned? Will you get your organs harvested for practicing your faith in China? Will you be oppressed and suppressed? Will you be arrested? Are there Churches in China?

The Taiping Rebellion was influenced to some degree by Christian teachings, and the Boxer Rebellion was in part a reaction against Christianity in China. Christians in China established the first modern clinics and hospitals, and provided the first modern training for nurses. Both Roman Catholics and Protestants founded numerous educational institutions in China from the primary to the university level. Some of the most prominent Chinese universities began as religious-founded institutions. Missionaries worked to abolish practices such as foot binding, and the unjust treatment of maidservants, as well as launching charitable work and distributing food to the poor. They also opposed the opium trade and brought treatment to many who were addicted. Some of the early leaders of the Chinese Republic, such as Sun Yat-sen were converts to Christianity and were influenced by its teachings. By 1921, Harbin, Manchuria's largest city, had a Russian population of around 100,000, constituting a large part of Christianity in the city.

Christianity, especially in its Protestant form, gained momentum in China between the 1980s and the 1990s, but in the following years, folk religion recovered more rapidly and in greater numbers than Christianity (or Buddhism). One scholar noted that "the Christian God then becomes one in a pantheon of local gods among whom the rural population divides its loyalties".

Protestants in the early twenty-first century, including both official and unofficial churches, had between 25 and 35 million adherents. Catholics were not more than 10 million. Other demographic analyses found that an average 2–4% of the population of China claims a Christian affiliation. Christians were unevenly distributed geographically. The only provinces in which they constituted a population significantly larger than 1 million persons are Henan, Anhui and Zhejiang. Protestants are characterised by a prevalence of people living in the countryside, women, illiterates and semi-literates, and elderly people.

A significant number of members of churches unregistered with the government, and of their pastors, belong to the Koreans of China.[334] Christianity has a strong presence in the Yanbian Korean Autonomous Prefecture, in Jilin. The Christianity of Yanbian Koreans has a patriarchal character; Korean churches are usually led by men, in contrast to Chinese churches which more often have female leadership. For instance, of the 28 registered churches of Yanji, only three of which are Chinese congregations, all the Korean churches have a male pastor while all the Chinese churches have a female pastor. Also, Korean church buildings are stylistically very similar to South Korean churches, with big spires surmounted by large red crosses. Yanbian Korean churches have been a matter of controversy for the Chinese government because of their links to South Korean churches.

In recent decades the Communist Party of China has become more tolerant of Christian churches outside party control, despite looking with distrust on organizations with international ties. The government and Chinese intellectuals tend to associate Christianity with subversive Western values, and many churches have been closed or destroyed. Since the 2010s policies against Christianity have been extended also to Hong Kong.

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