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你是猶豫不決的人還是當機立斷的人?
(例如換髮型XD)
Are you an indecisive person?
(such as changing hairstyle)
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後三張是在店裡完整的髮型加上開到爆的美肌app😂
The last three photos were taken r...
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你是猶豫不決的人還是當機立斷的人?
(例如換髮型XD)
Are you an indecisive person?
(such as changing hairstyle)
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後三張是在店裡完整的髮型加上開到爆的美肌app😂
The last three photos were taken right after styling with strong beautifying app😂
Hair: @kenny_mpalace
Translation: @benkongenglish
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偶爾我會猶豫不決
小事如選晚餐 選照片 挑衣服 是否參加某活動
大事如換工作 作明顯影響未來的重大決定
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猶豫不決的我會找不同的人聊聊
聽聽大家的想法和建議
甚至會擲筊問卜
最後才能勉強作出抉擇
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我發現 這似乎是有點欺騙自己的行為
可能是因為「不願意」或「不膽敢」相信自己心中的決定
一個已經存在 但連自己都沒發現的決定
於是向外尋求支持
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心中已有一個隱晦的答案
當他人持相反意見時
我會嚴肅地拒絕他 認真地提出這個方案的缺點
當他人持相同意見時
我會升起一絲難以被自己和他人察覺的喜悅
並勉為其難地說「你也這樣覺得噢～ 可是...」
硬是要說說另一個方案的優點
像一個小小孩在父母面前扯謊一樣赤裸而逗趣
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當然與外界的激盪 內在的沈澱
有助於讓隱晦的答案慢慢清晰
但若是
對神明換了一百個問法只為擲出聖筊
和朋友討論半天只為對方支持自己既有的答案
是否能省事地相信自己
勇敢地作自己愛的決定
也坦然地接受後續精彩的化學變化
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I am indecisive sometimes.
I struggle over trivial matters like what to wear, what to have for dinner, which photo to choose and whether to attend an event.
I am torn between more important things like switching jobs and decisions that affect my future as well
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Being indecisive, I usually talk it over with many different people.
A decision is finally made after listening to everyone’s suggestions and thoughts, even fortune-telling or casting divination blocks at times.
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Is it a cheating to myself?
This may be attributed to the unwillingness or lack of confidence in my own decision——an ambiguous decision that is already in my subconscious, and not noticed even by myself.
So I seek help from others.
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Given that I have an answer already,
I turn people down when they hold opposite ideas and point out the flaws in their options; while I am secretly delighted when they reaffirm my choice.
I will even pretend to be reluctant and name some pros of the other option, interesting and as transparent as a child lying in front of his parents.
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Of course, this kind of opinion exchanging with others or calmness in myself might be helpful in making the answer clear.
However, if I cast the divination blocks a hundred times just to get a yes from God;
If I discuss it with my friends for the whole day just to get their reaffirmation.
Why not simply trust in myself and make my own decision,
and accept the possibilities that brought by it?
