對原生家庭的研究，我很感興趣。

不是因為自己有需要，而是看到很多身邊人的個性、面對問題或危機的反應和處理方法、情緒管理、面對權威或後輩的自我形象等等，都非常反映到原生家庭、成長(upbringing)怎樣將他們shaped to who they are now

是非常有趣的，但我發現不少人都有一個問題，就是不夠了解自己。因此會為自己的行為、情緒無處疏通的情況而懊惱。這些朋友喜歡在遇到問題時，找朋友來傾談，總是能夠排解一點愁緒，卻永遠解決不到問題，或在某些地方永恆地輪迴，做著朋友叫他們不要做、試著改變的做法。我稱呼這些為「嘔血朋友」，早在中學時已經有很多，現在比較少，除了我因為太嘔血而疏遠了這類人外，也為了自保而盡量不結交新的嘔血朋友。

了解自己是多麼重要的事。有很多事情可以做，只要你願意。有時需要勇氣，有時需要決心，有時需要真朋友輕輕一屌。了解自己是你的責任，不管是study原生家庭（父母及siblings、成長環境或事件對自身影響）、校園生活或個人成長經歷、每天跟自己對話、多問＆反問自己問題等等，都是通往了解自己之路的一種。

了解自己多一點，就會更懂得你在世界中的位置，面對難題和挑戰＆esp失敗和低潮時，你會更懂得去自處，更快通往「安、樂」（唔是安樂死）。 只有通過這樣，你才會成為更好的人。

世界已經非常瘋狂，了解自己更多，也許能為世界少點「添煩添亂」。 .

再說一次：非常鼓勵任何人努力去了解自己。
利申：我已經非常了解自己，但仍每日努力去了解自己。

#其實呢堆圖唔太answer到我
#我預期佢講啲insightful少少嘅嘢但好一般
#於是我借題發揮
#唔好意思如果fake咗大家追圖
#BeABetterPerson
#不問問題過活嗎
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#Repost @storytalerhk with @get_repost ・・・
不知道大家與家人相處的時候，會否試過突然牽動情緒，然後忍不住發脾氣，或者逃避對話，然後引發衝突呢？
這一次主要會探討原生家庭對我們的影響，以及如何從個人層面嘗試改變與家人的相處模式，走出死胡同。

文 : 基爾 ; 圖 : Camelie 山茶花

【你心中的央掘魔罗】THE AṄGULIMĀLA IN YOU
（English writing below)

在我的YOUTUBE頻道上，我每天都收到好一些留言，雖然我不曾在影片中說過：「請按讚、留言和分享！」。

有一部份的觀眾會辱罵我、取笑我或嘲諷我，但我大部份的觀眾都會鼓勵我、感謝我及問一些有深度的問題，提升自己的智慧。

看了這影片後: https://youtu.be/m5l01u-mDIw，

💁🏻‍♂️Patrick先生留言：
老師 不好意思我想請問您 因為那些惡人 今世可以賺到不斐的財富 是因為前世他們累積了不可思議的福報導致 那麼佛教有種說法 就是我們累世輪迴 這一世就是靈魂繼承上世的修行程度

你修的好的地方（善緣福報）你修的不好的地方（惡緣惡報）都會帶來這一世讓你繼續修

最終目的就是修到大圓滿 然後成佛

可是我的問題是 那些惡人如果上世能夠累積到這麼多的福報 那麼本質上他的靈魂就一定是善的居多 怎麼這一世會偏差的這麼遠呢？ 令人費解@@ 不好意思想請教老師...

👩🏻‍🏫 我的回覆：
您好，菩薩有隔世之迷，而且人之初，性混沌，遇到善緣，人會變善，遇到惡緣，人會變惡。

但問題是，修過福報的人，不一定是守五戒的人，因為他們可能不曾修過智慧，習性特重，便不會產生這定力不去犯錯。

打個比方，成龍享有巨大的財富和名氣，和他喜歡做慈善的心性有關係，但他還是犯了淫，因為定力不足，喜色成性。後代房祖名吸毒不爭氣，成龍受千夫所指，也是邪淫果報之一。

喜做善，不代表沒有在行惡。行了惡，又沒有懺悔，就會有這般善惡交叉的命運。但惡人再惡，善緣臨時也會有放下屠刀，立地成佛的一天，如佛陀弟子央掘魔罗。

他曾經是個殺人不眨眼的連環殺手。為了要達到殺一千人的目標，他窮追著佛陀。只要殺了釋迦牟尼佛，央掘魔罗就大功告成，誤認為自己可以升天了。

可是無論他跑得多快，他就是追不上近在眼前緩慢走著的佛陀。

於是，他大聲呵斥要佛陀停下來。佛陀頭也不回地說：「央掘魔罗！我早就停下來了。沒有停下來的是你。」

朋友，你心中的央掘魔罗可也停下來了嗎？

還是你依然在種著惡因，傷害著自己呢？

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I get many comments everyday on my Youtube channel, despite me never saying "Please like, comment and share" in my videos.

Some are just scolding/mocking/taunting me but most of my audience thank me, encourage me and make the effort to ask insightful questions, so as to increase their wisdom.

Under this video: https://youtu.be/m5l01u-mDIw

💁🏻‍♂️ Mr Patrick commented:
Excuse me, Teacher, I would like to ask you. Those evil people can earn huge money this life, due to the incredible good fortune they amassed in their past lives. In Buddhism, it is said that our souls in this life inherit our cultivation from our past reincarnations.

The areas that you have cultivated well (positive affinities + good fortune) and the areas that you have not (negative affinities + negative karma) will follow you to this lifetime for you to continue your cultivation.

The eventual goal is reach the Great Perfection and then attain Buddhahood.

So my question is, if those evil people can accumulate so much good fortune, then intrinsically his soul should have more good in it.

Why do they end up deviating so far? This is perplexing. @@ And I would like to seek Teacher's advice.

👩🏻‍🏫 My reply:
When a Bodhisattva is reincarnated, He becomes ignorant of His past life.

Also, Man's nature at birth is muddled. When virtuous affinities arise, Man can become virtuous. When malevolent affinities arise, Man can become evil.

The thing is a person who have cultivated good fortune may not be a person who abide by the Five Precepts. He may not have cultivated his wisdom and retains many undesirable habits, so he lacks the meditative strength to restrain himself from doing wrong.

For example, Jackie Chan enjoys great wealth and fame, which is correlated to his love for philanthropy. However, he still committed sexual misdeeds, due to his inability to control his sexual urges and habitual lust. His only son, Jaycee Chan, unfortunately turns to be a drug addict for 8 years, a huge disappointment to many, and Jackie Chan got universally condemned again. Such is one retribution of sexual misconduct.

A person who likes doing good is not a virtuous man, if he also commits evil. When there is no repentance after evil is done, we will end up with a destiny that crosslinks good and evil.

However, no matter how evil a person is, when his virtuous conditions arise, there will still be a day when the butcher will lay down his knife and become a Buddha.

Just like Aṅgulimāla, who later became Buddha's disciple.

He was a serial killer, who wore the fingers of his 999 victims on a necklace. He was chasing Buddha to murder him, so that he can reach his goal of killing 1000 people. He wrongfully thought that would ascend him to Heaven.

Yet no matter how fast he ran, he could not catch up with Buddha, who seemingly was just walking slowly not that far away from him.

He yelled at Buddha to stop, and Buddha said, without turning his head:

"Angulimala! I have already stopped. It is you who have not stopped.”

My dear friend, have the Angulimala in you stopped?

Or are you relentlessly planting seeds of evil only to inflict misery onto yourself?

上週五，我與同事共同舉辦「台北對話」活動，這一次，是針對台北的交通事務，邀請所有關心台北的國內外友人，各國商會、駐台辦事處來參與。

一方面除了搜集問題，一方面，也是將台北，乃至於台灣好的部分，盡可能推廣出去

沒有一個政府、政黨，可以全面性的解決問題。要跨局處，跨部會，很多時候也要跨黨派（ 謝謝時力的志明兄參與）

Alex Garcia先生，針對台北的交通，從捷運系統、公車、乃至於u-bike的狀況，詳盡的解釋

至於公車、或者大型車輛在轉彎比較大氣地甩尾部分，youbike這方面我們也會反應。

感謝@Alan Lee 台灣以色列國際資訊安全暨科技交流協會

Peter Chai Taiwan Israel Chamber of Commerce 台灣以色列商業文化促進會 以及我的得意助手Nathan的協助

本次有印尼第二代何景榮老師、Mira 波蘭代表Rys、紐西蘭駐台代表處Wilson、澳洲駐台代表處副處長、美國、法國商會的參與，也添加許多有意思的討論。

大家對於台灣公共運輸設施便利性、以及非常便宜的部分都有所讚揚，但，許多人也認為，過度補貼不顧市場機制的方法，還是需要調整。

不管如何，我誠摯希望經過這些討論，讓台北成為更適合經商、生活的國際都會

一起努力！

The first Global Taipei Dialogue was a huge success! It was a pleasure to be able to listen to the opinions of those who live in the city and learn about some of the ways we can improve. Traffic safety was one of the key questions brought to our attention that we will now be discussing further here at Taipei City Government.

First I’d like to thank Alex Garcia for his insightful presentation and discussion of Taipei’s Transportation network. Furthermore, this event would not have been possible without the generous support of our sponsors, the Israel Cybersecurity and High Technology Association and the Taiwan Israel Chamber of Commerce, thank you for all the support you provided. In addition, I’d like to thank my colleague Nathan Hotter who coordinated this event. Without his ideas on how to learn from the public this would not have been possible. Finally, I’d like to share my appreciation for the effort put in by the rest of my office to invite attendees and assist with the organisation of this event.

Thank you all for coming. The ideas presented by the attendees provided a different perspective on the issues being experienced in the city. I look forward to continuing this discussion series and learning more from the coming Global Taipei Dialogues.
#taipei #taiwan