2020.3.6 17:57 更新：
好消息！在網友吳馥如的協助下，找到了方惠清女士住在彰化市的堂弟，也得知方惠清女士目前人在法國，我已將方女士堂弟的聯絡方式告訴尋人的李寶珊女士之女，希望這對好友能盡快取得聯繫，祝福她們！

【女兒代媽媽尋人】

原尋人文章以英文書寫，發文者是 Chung Phụng Anh，以下的中文內容為網友 Borcheng Hsu 代為翻譯。

==翻譯開始==

我的媽媽是潮州人，1959年生，從小住在柬埔寨，15歲被帶到紅色高棉集中營，與一位名叫 Que Chinh的女孩成為好友。

1979-1980年間，她們被釋放，逃到越南，也因為她們兩位的父親都慘遭毒手，所以感情特別好。後來Que Chinh的哥哥將她申請到台灣。

起初她和叔叔住在一起，她的叔叔開了一間賣零食的小店；我媽媽和她通過幾次信，她的地址是：

Guan Shin & Co
Chung Shan Rd, section 1
225 Alley, Chang Chua, Taiwan
Đài Loan, R.O.C.

（應該是台灣彰化中山路一段225巷）

不過後來我媽媽生了四個小孩，非常忙碌，等比較有空再寫信過去，信就被退回了。

我的媽媽現在62歲，目前住在美國波士頓，很想念 Que Chinh，希望能找到她。

==翻譯結束==

媽媽的名字是李寶珊（Lý Bửu Sang）
媽媽朋友的名字是方惠清（Que Chinh）
她的叔叔的名字是方克

以下為尋人原文：

Chung Phụng Anh shared her first post.

Aching Endeavor of Family Search
(some of the names have been translated into English by phonic sounds and might not be accurate, and my mom and I don’t know how to use Chinese keystrokes on computers).
My mom was a Chinese (Teochow) living in Cambodia, and a survivor of the Pol pot Khmer Rouge genocide. In the labour camp of the Khmer Rouge, a friendship was born between her and another lady who eventually settled in Taiwan. Now, my mom is living in Boston, MA, United States, and wishes to look for her endearing friend.
My mom’s name translated into Vietnamese is Lý Bửu Sang, her Chinese name is written on top of her teenage passport photo here. She was 15 when she was brought from Nong Phenh to the Khmer Rough labour camp, named something sound like Clok-By-Cam-Pot. There, she and her family made friends with a girl a year or so older than her, named Que Chinh, and her family. My grandpa and Ms. Que Chinh’s father was made to carry heavy loads of human feces for fertilization. He eventually died of inhuman condition in the camp, and Ms. Que Chinh’s father was killed off.
In1979-1980, my mom and Ms. Que Chinh were released and ran to Saigon, Vietnam. They met up regularly in Chợ Lớn (which means literally, Big Market) where gathered a large population of Chinese Vietnamese. The orphaned girls were as close as sisters.
Eventually, Ms. Que Chinh’s brother sponsored her to go to Taiwan. She initially lived with her uncle, who had a small shopping selling treats. They exchanged letters a few times at Mr. Que Chinh’s uncle’s address attached here (not sure if it's in the correct format):
Guan Shin & Co
Chung Shan Rd, section 1
225 Alley, Chang Chua, Taiwan
Ms. Que Chinh sent my mom three letters in which she attached her three photos here with the scenes in Taiwan, one of which was with her younger sister in the hats. The girl who turns around with the background of the mountain skyline is Ms. Que Chinh, and so is the girl with the background of the pagoda.
After that, my mom gave birth to 4 kids and became very busy at first. Then, when she finally had time and wrote to Ms. Que Chinh at the same address, the mail was returned.
To anyone who lives in Taiwan or knows anyone in Taiwan, please kindly help pass the words to Ms. Que Chinh. My mom misses her very much.
Thank you for your kind read...

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IVF Journey, A Husband’s Perspective

Hi all, before reading further I would like to say this is NOT an instruction or tips for IVF and hopefully readers will understand my poorly written English. This is my journey as a father of the IVF baby girl. Why am I sharing all this? It is because my wife had a Facebook page of her IVF journey at https://facebook.com/ivfjourney2015/ and she told me that majorities (not all but most) feedback indicate husband not supportive enough to commit into a journey of IVF. I’m not a true supportive husband either, least I made up my mind to make it happen.

Let’s start with “Why IVF?”
We went for a fertilization test and results with;
Husband: Teratospermia (Human language, sperm is weak for fertilization process)
Wife: Unexplained infertility (I think this is easy to understand, there is for the confirming reason for this result and we don’t go for further test after it because it will consumes too much time and money)

We married and planned to have children late 2011, both our ages were 37 in 2015 because of late marriage. My wife introduced IVF because she does not want to give up and feels regretful in future and so do I. Maybe because I did too many regretful things in the past, now I do not want this happened to my wife. At least I do it better then ignoring it.

Preparation for IVF
Financially, I know it will involve amount of 20k – 30k “Ringgit Malaysia” in the whole process depending on the situation and this is only one chance for me. I don’t have the money for a second attempt because I need to allocate funds for delivery if success.

Mentally, I do some studies/research on IVF. The whole journey took 50 days and in one of the process my wife needs to do a self-injection daily. I quickly asked my wife “Daily injection?! Do I need to fetch you to clinic daily to do this?” She answered “No, we need to do this ourselves”. A final question from me going to be “How?!” After we sat down and discuss, we comes into conclusion and I will do the injection for her. This was the most painful and nervous moment I ever experience by poking a needle to my wife’s belly EVERYDAY!

Lifestyle, 6 months earlier. My wife told me the NO’s, NO alcohol NO smoking NO midnight wandering NO stress. I said, I will fly up to the skies like butterfly if I able to do all the NO’s. It’s like a mission impossible. How can a man like me not go out to social with friends without alcohol and smoke? The joke was sleeping early! You want me to social with my friends in breakfast or lunch time? At this time, she softly said “I really wants to have a cute baby in future, it looks more like a family. Furthermore, I don’t want to have regretful moments in future”. All these words came out of my love (wife), her words melted in my heart deeply. I told her “Ok, we will go for it BUT you will need to promise me ONE IMPORTANT thing. No matter the process success or not we only have one attempt we need to accept the truth and live happily without regret in future.” she agreed.

Commitment, this is not some empty promise. I made a huge commitment to change my lifestyle into zero alcohol, tobacco and lesser stress. If comparing the pain and suffers my wife will take in this journey e.g., injection, medication effects, hormone changes and all the effects from pregnancies to delivery, mine looks more alike small potatoes (looks much more simple). Trust me guys, don't compare it, if you do and more likely you're going loose badly. For the sake of making a better future, I had fulfilled this commitment.

IVF Journey Phase 1 “Unskilled Husband Injection”
Day 1, doctor consults us for Buserelin injection. I need to inject this medication into my wife's belly each day sharp at 8AM. The nurse had guided me side by side to do the first injection.
Day 2, I started my first injection to my wife's belly without anyone guiding beside. Feels a bit nervous because this time I'm doing it all by myself. I try to hum some music to distract my wife's from looking at the needle while injecting but still she is looking at it.
Day 3 - Day 15, sometime the injection hurting and causes bleeding/bruise to her. I need to find a new spot to inject every time and sees her bruise makes my pain in the heart too. My injection skills improved dramatically. She even told me that she doesn't feel pain like the beginning stages.
Day 16, follow up 2nd checkup. Doctor said, everything goes smoothly and added another medication to inject called Gonal-F to take home and start injecting on day 23. This message never surprises me because I've been told earlier, but just that the price to pay for this medication is quite costly.
Day 17 - Day 22, nothing much on these days and we just stick on the plan as usual.

IVF Journey Phase 2 “Stressful Night”
Day 23, Gonal F injections start today. This needle doesn't look same as those earlier, it comes with medication in it and look like a pen.
Day 24 - Day 26, side effects of the Gonal F medications started. My wife is feeling irritation at the injection site, fullness, bloating and tenderness in the lower abdomen due to the increasing size of the ovaries. Her mood changes dramatically as I can tell, but she endures it and tell me she can handle it.
Day 27, follow up 3rd checkup. Doctor said wife has eggs total of 12 and is ready for Transvaginal oocyte retrieval "Human language, Egg retrieval" at day 31.
Day 28 - Day 29, final injection of Gonal F. At day 29 night, I inject Ovidrel to wife belly to that causes the growth and release of a mature egg (ovulation) for day 31.
Day 30, resting whole day. Finally, we had a day without injection and worrying about holding any needles. Today we wondering about the egg growth, not knowing will the eggs grow more or still the same amount of 12.
Day 31, egg retrieval. 8 egg success retrieves and I give out my sperm for oocytes selection on the same day. Wife given cyclogest for oval protection after the egg retrieval.

IVF Journey Phase 3 “Hopeful Embryo Culture & Embryo Transfer”
Day 32 - Day 35, rest at home. We had pillow talk every night concerning about the growth of an embryo. We also look at sample growth stages of an embryo from the web to see what the current growth stage is.
Day 36, another hopeful and nervous morning. Doctor tells us the result of embryo culture as below;
Total Embryo Retrieve: 8
Embryo Qualified for ICSI: 6
Embryo Success until Cleavage Stage (Day 2 – Day 4): 3
Embryo Success until Blastocyst Stage (Day 5): 2
Embryo Qualified / Recommended for Transfer: 1
Both our eyes looked at each other, knowing only 1 Blastocyst Embryo available to transfer and doctor tell the same after it. I really do not know how to express both our feelings into words here, as we expected to have at least 2 Blastocyst out of 8 embryos and only left 1. We both agreed to proceed this only 1 Blastocyst transfer as this is the only choice we had. It's more likely walking on a 100ft tall string with no supports mission, a single error will fail the mission.
After the transfer process, wife given a room to rest for few hours. A nurse came and give us adjunctive medications, injections and advice while resting at room.

IVF Journey Phase 4 “The Final Moment of IVF”
Day 37 - Day 49, after the transfer. This period is known as 2WW (2 Weeks Wait) with adjunctive medications, injections and be very careful. I just let her sleep/rest more on the bed, I served her every meal in the room. We're also nervous and curious about pregnancy results on day 44, we tested with cheap pregnancy tester and get got a double line on it and we do have a little hope and joy with this result. On day 47, again we test, but this time with expensive pregnancy tester and the results double line again! We're so hopeful and happy at this moment. We really hope this result is true until the next checkup.
Day 50, final checkup. My wife goes for the hCG test by giving a sample of blood, we waited 2 hours for the results. While waiting, nurse guide us to a room to rest. Wife slept and I sat beside concerned on the hCG test results. 2 hours later, the doctor invited us to look for him. Before doctor speaks, while we are sitting down, my wife's eyes were starring in the hCG results number and she spotted the hCG number is 452. She smiles happily while doctor tells her "You are pregnant and congratulations! Come back after 2 weeks to scan for baby heartbeats. And please go out to the counter and ring the bell!”

Just Sharing My Thoughts
By all means, I’m not bragging about my success. I would like to say if anyone is planning on IVF, teamwork is very important and husband play a very important role to increase the success rate. Sometimes, I do feel like a spectator than a participant myself because I never experience any of the medical exams but this is not true. Every injection I put on her belly, I feel the pain in my heart as bad as she has on the belly. Ok, nothing much to share in this IVF journey and next time I might be sharing another journey as a Father! Here is my little baby girl Facebook page奥莉 Olivia Baby - 梁童心心 https://fb.me/oliviababylove if you wish to see her growth updates.

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