We had just recently reach the 2 year mark on our Banquet anniversary, here are some pointers for everyone out there who is looking for the 'one' in their life. (click on 'see more' to expand this post)

(extracted from http://www.myfatpocket.com/sex-love/recently-married-singaporean-bloggers-their-journey-in-love.html)

On a scale of 1 to 10 how would you rate his marriage proposal?

Clara: I would say he pretty much exceed the 10 point mark because he left me crying uncontrollably, it was pretty unexpected because our flat is due for collection and I never thought this proposal would came as a surprise.

We were on a trip together at Port Dickson for the holidays and were at a bar during the eve of Christmas. It was 30 mins before countdown, he told me he had a bad bowel problem and had to head back to the hotel room to release whatever that is left in his system, he also promised he'll be back before the countdown. Little did I know this stomachache is actually part of his wedding proposal and he already planned to decorate our hotel room during his 'disappearance'. So he got back in the nick of time only to tell me his stomachache is getting worse and we had to head back to the hotel to rest, I was feeling bummed throughout the walk back to our room but completely oblivious to whatever was planned out for me.

When I open the door to our rooms, I saw lit candles (good job on the unattended fire), flower petals, romantic songs from the sound system (I still remember it was sang by Nora Jones) and the special proposal gift; that was when I started to bawl like a baby.

How did you know he was the One?

Clara: We started as good friends and it gradually grew into lovers over time. Because we were from the same school, we spent a lot of tertiary years together and were pretty much inseparable. After 9 years of dating, we finally tied the knot.

How much different is married life compared to when you were engaged or dating?

Clara: During our dating years, we hung out at shopping malls and cafeterias very often thus delegation of household chores has never cross our minds. However, after getting married and sharing a flat together things changed, we are more committed to stay at home to chillax in our private sanctuary. Also the tough part, do weekly laundry and other chores.

There are also other issues we don't expect to see during our dating years eg, settling utility bills, weekly grocery shopping or asking the 'MAN' to get rid of that pesty roach in the house etc. Be it trivial or not, these matters can sometimes lead to nasty arguments.

However, I've to say we have been managing our little love nest(+marriage) pretty well, our place is always neat and tidy when we are expecting guests the very next day *wink wink*

What advice would you give single girls out there who are looking for their happily ever after?

Clara: The key to the four letter word 'LOVE' is commitment, faithfulness and patience.

There are many hurdles that could burnt out the fire in a relationship, both parties needs to be constantly reminded of the better times amidst these tough times. Instead of turning away from each other; listen to what both parties have to say, don't just simply close the door behind you.

I always tell myself no matter how grand you made it to be, a 'wedding' is a day; a 'marriage' is a lifetime.