It’s always baffled me that we think it’s appropriate to remark about changes in someone’s weight when we see them... this video has been a long time coming.
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Do we think they have no mirrors in their house and they haven’t noticed?
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I’ve used a few examples here that are closest to my personal experiences, but it’s an issue that affects people young and old, skinny, fat and everything in between.
Everyone seems incapable of putting themselves in the other person’s shoes.
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It’s really fucking simple. Just shut the fuck up and keep your observations the fuck to yourself.
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Maybe it’s a dear friend and you’re concerned about what the changes in their physique indicate about their lifestyle and their happiness... well then find a way to ask them about that! There are plenty of ways to ask someone how they’re doing and if they’re taking care of themselves without highlighting how it shows to everyone who looks at them.
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I live behind the scenes these days, working with people who struggle with their physiques and as a confident for friends. I know how sensitive a subject it is, even if they don’t show it and nervously laugh off comments.
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I grew up thinking it was an Asian thing, but then I realised that in Asia people (particularly older relatives) are particularly blunt about it with “Wah, so fat now ah?” whereas in the West people like to make it a joke with a “Ooh heck, you’ve let yourself go a bit eh mate!”.
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Both parties can go fuck themselves, and I’d love it if as many of you as possible who ever get made even slightly self-conscious about such remarks would take it upon yourselves to tell them so 🖕🏽
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Spread the word. Maybe, if it happens enough, we can sway the culture.

Look who I bumped into ! Honghui from #mulan
I know how it feels like being asked to take photos when one is halfway through a meal.....and yet I did this to @yosonosoy. I'm SORRY ! Lovely meeting u! Thanks for being so kind and lovely ☺️
The last time I was this nervously excited was when Leehom addressed me by my name 🤣
PS : My mum was asking y I looked so fat 😒 It 's the wind angle okaaaaayyy. There was a person behing him that got distorted but I cropped him outta the photo...so now I'm the only distorted looking one 😅
#好幸运 #追星成功 #disney

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如時間慢慢地快著

Translation: @benkongenglish
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轉眼 耶誕節和跨年已成了往事
我的心還念舊地不願向前跨步
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往事譬如昨日之近
未來似乎難及之遙
只因人心從來不公平對待過往和未來
用思想在一瞬間讀取記憶
用徬徨揣想未來如何出場
然而時間只是緩慢地 穩健地走
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當我盯著不停歇的指針 指針緩慢地拖著步伐
當我分心後再回神 指針穩健地跨了半個鐘面
時間只是緩慢地 穩健地走
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我嚮往在自己的旅途上緩慢地 穩健地走
輕鬆自在 緩慢地朝目標前進
投己所好 穩健地朝目標前進
不倉皇也不拖延
不散亂也不執著
願有心人終圓其願
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In the blink of an eye, Christmas and new year are past but my heart anchored at the same place.
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Everything seems like yesterday and the future is not within reach.
It’s because we never treat the past and the future equally
We take our memories out in a second and nervously guess how the future is going to be
But the fact is time just moves forward slowly and steadily
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When I stare at the clock, it moves unbearably slow.
When I look away, it leaps forward by half
Time just moves forward slowly and steadily
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I learn to move slowly and steadily on the journey of my own
Comfortably, slowly progress towards my goal
Be myself and steadily progress
Not in a hurry and not dragging
Not jumpy and not stubborn
I wish everyone’s goal is reached and wish comes true.

Written by Dr Auntie ⤵️

It was 1983. I just turned 7. That morning I was sent to school. I forgot now how I exactly felt. I’m sure I was feeling excited & anxious at the same time. But I remember how my father held my hand & walked with me to my classroom. Darjah 1 Biru. I remember that. I remember how my father helped to choose a desk for me. Yes Daddy, I know how much you wanted me to be successful, hence you put me right at the front of the classroom ?

November 2019. I was invited for a motivational talk for the students at SK Zainab 1. It was a prestigious event sponsored by SMO Bookstore. I wanted to accept, but the audience was too young for my experience. I wanted to decline, but that particular school was...my old school! I had a terrible dilemma, but that didn’t last long. I happily (yet nervously) said yes! I’ve been giving motivational talks to so many groups of people - from managers, leaders, frontline staff, academics, to university students. But this time, I‘d be speaking to my youngest audience ever - primary school students, age 7-12. How could I say no to an invitation that would bring me back to my old school?

Sunday 17 Nov 2019. I stepped into the school again after 35 years. I purposely brought my father with me. I held his hand, walked with him side-by-side, like the old days. Just that, this time we were escorted. We were brought to a large hall. My father was seated right at the front. I was so honoured, not only by the invitation, but also the opportunity to speak to a huge crowd right before my father! It was truly an honour.

I finished my talk after over an hour. I didn’t expect such positive feedback! I prepared my material in such a way that it would attract the students’ attention - from the title of my talk to the slideshow. I’m so pleased that it was a success! Alhamdulillah. I had SO many kisses on my hand. One after another. MashaAllah. It was truly an honour ??

I‘d like to express my gratitude to SMO Bookstore for the sponsor, the Head Teacher, the rest of the teachers & the students of SK Zainab 1. Thank you for such an unforgettable day, “A Motivational Talk on How To Be Popular with Dr Ashmiza” ?

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(Credit Video to Mr Ahmed Aznee Othman from SMO Bookstores)

Hope you all love this video!

Only Allen Iverson could deliver a Hall of Fame speech that name-checked '90s rappers, referenced "Chappelle's Show" and thanked just about every person he met along his basketball journey. Only Shaquille O'Neal could follow that act with what amounted to a half-hour comedy routine that needled former coaches and teammates and included a soap-opera shout-out.

The Naismith Memorial Basketball Hall of Fame's Class of 2016 lived up to its lofty billing with an epic three-hour induction ceremony Friday night at Springfield's Symphony Hall, with Iverson and O'Neal stealing the show.

Iverson delivered a captivating 31-minute speech in which he overcame initial jitters during a memorable address that featured multiple standing ovations. Fans with No. 3 Iverson jerseys in the balcony cheered throughout.

Dressed in a black suit with a black shirt and tie, Iverson paused repeatedly to collect himself at the start of his speech while thanking his three presenters -- Larry Brown, Julius Erving and John Thompson -- as well as members of his family.

Fighting tears throughout, Iverson thanked former Georgetown coach Thompson "for saving my life."

"[After] the incident happened in high school and all that was taken away ... no other schools would recruit me anymore," Iverson recalled, referencing a racial brawl at a bowling alley that landed him in jail. His conviction in the case was later overturned. "My mom went to Georgetown and begged [Thompson] to give me a chance. And he did."

He said he later left Georgetown only as "an OK basketball player."

"But once I started to listen to Larry Brown and take constructive criticism, I learned how much of a great, great coach that he really is. ... That's when I became an MVP," Iverson said.

In maybe the most memorable moment of his address, Iverson recalled his first time playing against his idol, Michael Jordan.

"Man, I wanted to be like Mike," Iverson said. "I remember the first time I played against him. I walked out on the court and I looked at him. And, for the first time in my life, a human being didn't really look real to me. You know what I mean? I don't know if you all watch the 'Chappelle Show,' but he talked about a certain incident where somebody's seeing Rick James. Like I literally seen his aura. It looked like he was glowing.

"I'm sitting there, and I'm saying, 'Man, that's Michael.' And I'm looking at him. I can't stop looking at him. I'm looking at his shoes, and I'm like, man, he's got on the Jordans! It was my Mike. It was my idol, my hero."

After the Jordan story, Iverson seemed to settle in. Nervously rocking at the start of his speech, he confidently thanked a Rolodex of coaches, owners, teammates and rappers.

"I want to thank Biggie Smalls, Redman, Jadakiss, Tupac and Michael Jackson for being my theme music throughout my career," Iverson said.

Twenty-two minutes into his speech, Iverson said, "The Philly fans," and that elicited a monster reaction from the balcony, which immediately engaged in an "MVP" chant.

Added Iverson: "My relationship with the fans in Philadelphia is like no other. I thank you all for the support over the years. ... You never jumped off the bandwagon, continued to support me like true fans are supposed to."

Iverson also paid tribute to "the ones that stuck by me throughout my journey." He cited "all the barbershop talk that my family had and all the arguments my friends had with people in the barbershop and hair salon.

"Now you can say: 'Well, look, my man is solidified.'"

Iverson closed his speech with a nod to the "guys who are not my friends anymore."

"I'm glad that you blew your cover for me to recognize that you [weren't] any good to my family or me. And I appreciate y'all for that. So if I make any more new friends, I know the signs," he said.

Not to be outdone, O'Neal took the stage for a punchline-filled speech as the final inductee of the night.

O'Neal referenced Luke and Laura from "General Hospital" and joked about his commercial endeavors, including how he sat in a "Buick I knew I couldn't fit in." Drawing laughter, O'Neal added, "Hey, they paid me $3 million. What did you want me to say, no?"

His speech had serious moments, like when he thanked his parents, Phil Harrison and Lucille O'Neal, for giving him the discipline and drive that drove his NBA dream.

"If I know my father, he's up there arguing with Wilt [Chamberlain] that his son is the best big man in the game," O'Neal said.

Here's my take on Magic!'s Rude! Love the song and I think it's super cheeky, so forgive me if I didn't do justice on the daughter version! Tehee. The writing that I did mostly corresponds to the lyrics of the original song and the viral dad version:

Original song: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PIh2xe4jnpk
Dad version: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TzyQx6AL1MQ

I recorded the audio first and the video later, so forgive me for that one wrong word at the almost end! :p Hope you guys like it! Original ones coming soon :)

Love ya'll
xx, dt

Lyrics:
Saturday morning, nervously waiting
Today is the day
He's gonna come and ask from my dad
The permission for marriage
Knocked on my door with a heart in his hand
Daddy gave him an answer
And things aren't really going so well

(You know what? I gotta do this)

Dad, can I have his last name for the rest of my life
Say yes, say yes, coz I need to know
To know I'll never get your blessings til the day I die
Is breaking me, daddy please don't say no

You don't have to be so rude
Don't you know he's human too
I know you're doing what a dad should do
And if I marry him anyway
Marry that boy, don't make him go away
Marry that boy, promise that he's okay
Marry that boy, we'll be a family
Oooh

I don't understand why you're being so angry
We're taking it slowly
Just wanna assure you he is the man
That I wanna marry
Daddy please hear my say,
We have it all planned out
And if things don't go our way
We're not gonna give up

Chorus

Daddy please don't say no
Don't ask him to go
Coz we'll always find our way....... back so please just say yes?