【女王背後的男人，英國菲利普親王人生謝幕】
英國白金漢宮昨天宣布，高齡99歲的王夫菲利普親王病逝，結束了他73年的王室任期。親王生前期望自己的葬禮能低調進行，將不會公開舉行國葬，而是以私人軍事葬禮走完最後一程。

作為歐洲史上在位最久的君主伴侶，菲利普親王可謂是個傳奇。他和伊莉莎白二世擁有同一個高祖母：維多利亞女王，兩人是三代表親，同時他還具有俄國沙皇的血統。他原本是希臘和丹麥的王子，因國內政變在幼時和家人一起逃向海外。只有18個月大的王子被放在船上一個水果箱內去到法國和德國，最後到蘇格蘭接受教育，自此在英國長大。起初這段婚姻遭到英國人反感，因為他是「外國人」。親王的四個姊姊也都繼續待在德國，成人後均嫁給納粹軍官，在二戰當中親王原本也因此受到質疑，但隨著他加入英國海軍參戰，也贏得英國人民的認同。

親王也並不是頂著頭銜坐享優容待遇的紈褲子弟，而是真正的軍人。戰時有次敵軍在夜間攻擊了親王所在的船艦，他當機立斷，將一艘木筏點火放入水中，然後下令船艦全速朝另一個方向前進。黑暗中看見光亮和濃煙的敵軍便往木筏開火，使親王所在的船隻平安脫險。同時他也擁有皇家空軍的多個飛行勳章，能駕駛59種飛行器，累積將近6,000個飛行時數。因為他參軍的過去，在孫子哈利對軍旅生涯同樣有濃厚興趣之下，祖孫二人感情非常好。

在宮中，親王也是最得工作人員喜愛的王室成員。熱愛烹飪的他，有時會親自下廚煮員工餐；他會開幽默親切的玩笑，還被稱作是宮中的「人民代表」。他寫過14本領域跳tone的書，還會作畫，可謂多才多藝。他年輕的時候很帥，女友眾多，但最後對表妹伊莉莎白女王一見鍾情。

在歐洲，王夫頭銜其實有很多種，菲利普親王的頭銜實際上是最低的Prince配親王，而不是較高的King Consort配國王，或是更高的Crown Matrimonial並肩王（完全擁有共治權）。他不曾要求，只是甘願做「女王身後陰影中的男人」。他的秘書說，自己剛到任時，親王告訴他，工作只有三個要求：別讓女王失望、別讓女王失望、別讓女王失望（很重要所以說三遍）。

然而親王也曾經有過許多爭議，例如傳說他情婦眾多，甚至還有私生子；雖然從未有實質證據，但也可見親王年輕時的風流與魅力。另外是他有時糟糕的幽默感：他出訪中國時開玩笑，說自己再待下去眼睛都會變小（不過中國人民似乎不太在意）；還曾對一個少年說，你這麼胖將來是沒辦法做太空人的。不過同時，他對慈善事業的貢獻也是有目共睹，足跡也遍及整個大英國協。

許多人認為，在21世紀，已經沒有國家需要徒負虛名的王室。但對多數英國人而言，伊莉莎白女王和菲利普親王代表的是一個時代，從二次世界大戰到21世紀的這個時代。王室已不具有政治權力，但作為精神象徵，他們更代表了英國的文化延續和民族氣質；當國家人民感到受傷、不安的時候，女王更是凝聚人心、撫慰傷痛的精神代表。這也成為英國獨特的大眾文化基因。

親王逝世，女王伊莉莎白二世也將度過95歲生日。祝福這位英國人民心中共同的奶奶能早日從傷痛中恢復，繼續做那個撫慰人心的女王。

點點星光點點風，
談情說愛星夜中，
靈魂之窗透眞情，
情意濃濃相互融。

戀愛中人多迷失，
情人眼裡皆西施，
春天未到花已開，
情話綿綿把愛栽。

愛神眷顧情意懐，
無需媒人來安排，
且莫婚後将情埋，
這樣無法到老來。

多年來，聽過、看過、處理過的感情事，身爲修行人及玄學家的吾，很坦白的告訴大家，眞的是不是冤家不聚首。

但，解決方法並不是，也絕不是她他做初一，我做十五。倘若妳你有這樣的心，這樣的做法，吾勸妳你速速除掉，這毁滅性的念舉。因爲，妳你會成爲自己、婚姻、家庭、感情的膾子手，同樣的讓婚姻、家庭、感情死於非命啊!

沒有人是完全無錯的。就是因爲不圓满，我們才需要修行，才需要冤家宜解不宜結啊！

所謂婚姻，就是一起看黄昏，陪伴到生命的黄昏啊！

不要以爲上個律師樓，就一了百了。這樣衹會拖拉到下一世，且越演越凶哦！想想妳你手上的婚戒，想想吾的這席話，想想妳你們當初愛的宣言，彼此改一改，看彼此的優點，挽着她他的手，陪她他戰勝心魔，陪她他跨過眼前所有的障碍物，一直到生命的盡頭。

吾，玳瑚師父，誠意獻上吾的愛詩三首，祝福妳你們，白頭偕老。

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I have heard, seen and handled many affairs of the heart in the past many years, and as a spiritual practitioner as well as a Chinese Metaphysics practitioner, I can honestly tell you this truth: Lovers are indeed karmic debtors from your past lives.

However, the solution is never to return the "favour", or an eye for an eye. If you have such intention or action, I advise that you call it quits on such destructive thoughts and behaviour because it will turn you into your own hangman, killing yourself, your marriage, your family and relationships!

No man is without fault. This is why everyone needs spiritual cultivation. This is why we must make a friend rather than an enemy!

Going into a marriage is akin to watching sunset together with your partner, till the end of your life!

Please do not have the false thinking that going to the divorce lawyers will solve your problem once and for all. This will only propagate the karmic debt to your next life, and have it manifest in an even venomous manner! Think about the wedding ring on your finger, think about my words, think about the promise of love made in the first place, and make an effort from both parties to change for the better. Hold his or her hands, and accompany your partner to battle the inner demons. Cross the hurdles together, till the end of life.

I, Master Dai Hu, sincerely present the 3 love poems above, and wish everyone matrimonial bliss.

【白頭偕老，談何容易】

Was answering some questions from my client last night.

Most of us here would had our wedding dates selected by a Feng Shui master. Be it of our choice, our parents' or our in-laws'.

I had mine selected by Master You Long Zi. He was my father's favourite fortune teller for decades.

At that time, I didn't know of any FSM that I could trust. Master You Long Zi gave me several choices and a mini manual of to-do and not-to-do.

I remember the session was about 15 minutes. Then again, the dates are all that matter. For a veteran like Master You Long Zi, doesn't need a long time to select good dates.

I did not give him any restriction like must be on a weekend, must be by XXX month because of upcoming flat, or must be in anniversary month.

I was wiling to accommodate to a good date, than to have a good date accommodate to me. 日子天定，非人定。 For that can mean a subpar date for my once-in-a-lifetime.

After being more adept at date selection, I went to check on my wedding date.

It was a great auspicious date on all counts, benefiting both the Husband and I.

Our wedding spans over two days, with 2 wedding dinners of 600 guests and a solemnisation ceremony at Fo Guang Shan temple.

Did everything go smoothly? Yes.

Was it fun? Definitely.

Do we have a happy marriage, eleven years after we said our vows? Yes and no.

An auspicious wedding date sets the tone for a happy and lasting union. It is the birth date (Bazi) of your marriage.

At its most basic, a good date ensures that your wedding day proceeds smoothly, and that any hiccup or disagreement will be kept to a minimum. Both families will be happy. Good memories last a lifetime. Bad memories erupt into WWIII, every time your wife speaks of her wedding day.

For the brides, an auspicious date helps to protect them from being bullied by the in-laws.

It fulfils the Heavenly component of the Metaphysics equation of success: 天時 (Right Time), 地利 (Right Place) and 人和 (Right People).

There are still two other factors that matters.

The Feng Shui of the matrimonial home and the compatibility of the couple's Bazi.

We don't just want an auspicious wedding.

We crave a marriage that is happy and strong.

Among my clients, 90% of them neglected their home Feng Shui. Sometimes, it's both parties, sometimes it's one spouse.

Almost all of them don't have a logical reason to dispute Chinese Metaphysics. It is mostly an emotional reaction to disbelieve, or the commonly misplace mindset of "I don't want to be bound by rules and just want to live freely" playing prank.

This concept of "living freely" is like come what may, good luck or bad luck.

You think a fulfilling marriage happens to everyone? If that is true, there won't be thousands of angsty love songs.

There is no ESC button that we can readily press, when things gets rough.

And some words when spoken wrongly, can't be DEL.

Fact of life: it takes more than a good wedding date to sustain a marriage.

We use Feng Shui to help harmonise the living environment of a family unit, so that the couple do not have to risk their marriage in vain.

A marriage is more vulnerable than you care to admit.

Good Feng Shui helps keep roving eyes in check and snip away the unwanted Peach Blossom (Bad) Luck in time.

It brings in more abundance for the couple, than what the couple can achieve on their own. #人的力量是有限的.

It nurtures children who are more filial, obedient and focused in their studies.

It clears up many obstacles and attracts benefactors into your life.

A simple benefactor can be a great tutor that your child likes or a helpful maid that does not give you problems or steal your loose change.

It's easy to say, "We will do whatever it takes to keep our marriage strong."

Come on, let's get real. We are humans. We get tired. We get stressed.

We pick at nitty-gritty faults and magnify them unnecessarily.

This is especially common in couples whose Bazi are mismatched.

During home selection or wedding date selection. couples would ask me about their Bazi compatibility.

Isn't it kinda late? What are you going to do, even if you know the truth? Cancel your wedding plans?

It's rare to see couples of compatible Bazi. Then again, marriage is a game of karmic debt for many people. #人生本來就是酬業

The best time to ask about your Bazi is to seek a proper Bazi consultation with me, way before you have any wedding plan.

I sometimes get requests from my clients to bring their favourite human along, but my stance had always been to only meet the client alone.

There will be some limitations in what I can tell you, if your concerned girlfriend is hovering beside you.

You know me. I am direct. No girlfriend can take it, if I tell you she is of a poor wife material, and don't marry her, no matter what.

If I don't tell you the truth, next time you're going to say Ji Qian makes a poor fortune teller.

If you are married, a Bazi consultation will set things into better perspective and get you of out of your rut.

Not everyone's Bazi gets better after marriage.

Not every man marries a woman who brings him better luck.

Not every woman snags a man who makes a good husband and father.

About 8 years ago, I once told a teenager in secondary school that she must marry late or she will risk having an unhappy marriage. I strongly advocated celibacy before marriage.

I knew she wouldn't listen, but I still went ahead to nag.

She was pregnant before turning 21 and got wedded in a haste.

According to her, it was a planned move to have a child. #badmove

Time to time, I would hear her whine about her unhappiness with her spouse, her in-laws and the problems with her daughter.

I had wanted to bring up this point in my workshops but had missed out every single time.

Children who are conceived outside wedlock are one of the hardest to raise.

Life is short. Don't waste time and suffer for nothing, when you already have access to a practitioner who is willing to help.

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p.s. If you get pregnant before marriage, please give birth to the child. Never ever choose abortion. There is no fury like a murdered baby scorned.

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