TOXIC THINGS WE’RE (girls) TAUGHT ABOUT SHAADI - Disclaimer: All these are my personal opinions. If you disagree with any of these, feel free to comment down below. - “Bacha karlogi tou future secure hojaefa” This one’s a classic. I’ve been listening to this since a very early age from different women in my life. Kay shaadi kay pehle saal mei bacha karlogi tou shohar kahin nai jaega. What does that mean? Are we not enough for this man’s loyalties & faithfulness? Was not leaving our homes & family enough? Why do we have to depend on another life in order to get the bare minimum? This needs to stop. ✋ “Talaaq shuda larkion ko boorhay aadmi he milte hain” This one’s majorly used to scare us. To not ever consider divorce. To keep suffering & compromising. Jab shaadi karte hway khuda nay joriyon mei banaya tha tou talaaq kay badh 2sri shaadi kee bhe tou jori banai he hogi? “24 saal se bari larkion ko achay rishtey nai milte” As if ek acha rishta he ek 24 saal se choti bandi ki sabse bari achievement hogi? Again, yeh bhe sirf humare andar ek darr payda kerne kay lye kaha jaata hai. “ Larkion ka asal ghar usska susraal hota hai “ GOD KNOWS HOW MUCH I HATE THIS. Matlab ek bandi ne apni zindagi kay 18-20 saal ek gher mei guzaaray with her parents & siblings and now you’re telling her it was never her house? I’m so glad that my parents never believed in this. Your daughter’s already leaving her house to go & live in a new house & a new family. I swear this is the last thing she needs to hear. I know my mama baba’s gher will forever be my gher too & I know they’ll have my back hemesha. . . . #reel #browngirlproblems #trends #tiktok #desiculture #brownculture #desiparents #desimom #brownparentsbelike #tiktokindiaofficial #sanyayx #sanyayxbeauty #indianparenting #pakistanimedia #tiktokpakistan

Kyoto // 八坂の塔 ひとりじめ。

ASCA Workshop 2021 | June 23-25 (Wed to Fri), 2021 | University of Amsterdam, The Netherlands | Organized by Jori Snels and Lok Yee Wong. Confirmed keynote speakers Prof. dr. Lance Bennett, University of Washington Dr. Alexandra Segerberg, Uppsala University Prof. dr. Iris van der Tuin, Utrecht University Prof. dr. Sally Wyatt, Maastricht University As our global crisis continues, it seems that the social order and our sense of self is changing. We celebrate family birthdays via Skype, demonstrate for social justice on Instagram, and visit art exhibitions in Animal Crossing; meanwhile, we are condemned to living twenty-four hours a day with our partners, roommates or alone, in a home turned office, habituated to uncertainty and fear. Through this experience, we have become keenly aware of both digital technologies’ previously untapped potentialities for connecting us and their seemingly unbridgeable boundaries; we are learning to live in and with entrapment, experiencing both unprecedented distance and closeness. How can we mourn, how can we protest, how can we engage deeply, when we cannot show up with our bodies, when we cannot step out of our homes? As David Harvey stated in ‘We need a collective response to the collective dilemma of coronavirus’: “I am in a frustrating position of personal isolation, at a moment when the time calls for collective forms of action.” […] The workshop is open to the public. To register as a visitor, please email [email protected]. Limited places are available for the artistic intervention workshop by Sabrina Huth and Ilana Reynolds; please reserve a spot through [email protected]. Design: @yatbat