【小風箏的故事 A Story of Small Kite 】
(by 阿肥 19.10.2006)

從前有一位善良婦人,
Long long time ago, there was a very kind woman.
用心做了一隻小風箏,
She made a small kite with patience & heart.
她對小風箏無微不至,
She loved this small kite very much.
常向它細訴內心說話,
She took care of it & always shared feelings with it.
她希望它能自由飛翔,
She hoped the small kite could fly high in the sky,
把快樂帶給身邊的人!
Bringing happiness to people around its side.

小風箏外型雖不美麗,
Although the small kite was not beautiful,
但同樣有顆善良的心;
It also had a warm heart.
它努力隨風四處飄揚,
It tried its best to fly everywhere,
默默去看護需要的人;
Visiting & helping people here & there.
小風箏乖乖履行承諾,
The small kite was obedient to fulfill its promise,
只因它同樣深愛主人!
Because it also deeply loved its master!

小風箏努力的飛呀飛,
The small kite endeavored to fly high in the sky.
不只一次遇上暴風雨,
Sometimes met with thunderstorm,
常被樹枝小鳥弄傷了!
And sometimes was injured by branches & birds.
可是小風箏並不害怕,
But the small kite was never afraid,
因它的線有她緊握著,
Because its thread was hold by the woman tightly.
受傷時有她替它縫補!
When it was hurt, the woman would dress for it!

可惜一天婦人病倒了!
Unfortunately, the woman became ill one day.
小風箏焦急心痛極了!
The small kite was anxious & heartbroken.
它拼命飛往不同地方,
It took a risk to fly everywhere,
攀嚴崖峭壁尋找靈藥,
Braved death to find miraculous cures.
荊棘刺得它滿身鮮血,
The thistles and thorns stabbed it in bleeding,
可是小風箏決不放棄!
But the small kite never gave up!

小風箏盡忠守護婦人,
The small kite was loyal to watch the woman,
儘管身上已滿佈傷痕,
Regardless its wounds were bleeding and infected.
因疲累的它早已知道,
Because the small kite realized that,
當婦人一天鬆開雙手,
When the woman loosened its thread one day,
斷線的它將消失雲層,
The small kite would disappear in the cloud,
永遠追隨它心愛主人!
Adhered to its master forever!

2021年2月3日(三)晚上8：15，放工了！

以上這篇心聲，是我於肥媽中風一年多後寫的(肥媽於2005年9月8日突然嚴重中風，那年的她才62歲，我28歲)！

伴她奮力抗戰十多年，我曾不只一次告訴自己，假如一天肥媽離開我，我一定要隨她一起離開！

我一心想飛往日本洞爺湖，永遠沉到湖底裡去；那裡是我第一次帶肥媽往日本旅行時氣到她病倒的地方！那晚肥媽被逼獨自一個留在酒店休息，吃不到全程最豐富的晚餐，看不到夜空最絢麗的煙花！煙花綻放過後，四周回復漆黑，我獨自一個在海旁漫步，越想越內疚，越想越自責；走著走著，最終迷了路，幸好遇上一對日本情侶問到路才可返回酒店！

可是，沉了落湖底，找不到遺體，妹妹就永遠拿不到我留給她的保險了！這方法，不可行！

於是，當工作或身心受到欺凌創傷時，我又會流淚默想其他可行又不傷害到妹妹的辦法！

過去，我經常逼肥媽承諾，不論去到那裡也要帶著我，他日離開這世界也要帶著我，害得可憐的她躺在床上淚眼汪汪，十分擔心；結果，即使身受重傷仍一直竭力苦撐下去！

猶記得有一晚，我在肥媽床邊，和她談論起誰先死的問題，肥媽的答案，讓我永遠刻骨銘心！如果大家有興趣，日後我再和大家分享！

2021年2月3日(三)，今天，是肥媽離開我第370天.....

此刻的我，再沒有以前任性自毁的想法；不是因為我不想盡快回到肥媽身邊，而是有三個主要原因：

1)我害怕得罪天父，永遠升不了天堂！

2)我怕令妹妹受到傷害，雖然她有時對我很惡，但我知道她很愛我！

3)最重要的是，我不可傷害一生最愛我的肥媽！辛辛苦苦懷胎十月、冒著生命危險誕我出來、一生無微不至的愛我、含辛茹苦的湊大我；為怕我接受不到她離開，一直負傷淌血苦撐到最後一刻；如果我自行了結她賦予我的寶貴生命，我實在比過去傷害折磨她十數年更不孝！

我是一隻小風箏，一隻由一位心地十分善良的婦人親手縫製的小風箏！

小風箏的線一直緊握在婦人手裡，不同的是過往在地上，如今在天上！

小風箏會盡力的飛下去，直到一天婦人感滿意，把它溫柔拉回她懷裡！

到時小風箏就可重回婦人身邊，和她一起快樂生活，永遠不用再分開！

Everyone has a story of the moment where things crystallised and they endeavored to be better and do better. Courtesy of HRBVR, here's mine:

https://hrbvr.life/2019/06/03/richie-kul/

不知道從何時開始，在很多朋友或家庭聚會都會聽到家長們或長輩們問候的第一句話是：「哇，你肥了很多！」（然後伸手摸你的肚子）或「哇，怎麼瘦了很多！」（也是伸手摸你的肚子）。因為做幕前，所以慢慢接受了這個文化。但其實無論如何，沒有人問過你這個一年見一次的 Auntie 意見，也沒有人喜歡無端端給摸肚子或臉的。昨天，我看見一位 Auntie，對著一個比較圓潤的小朋友 （大概 10 歲）的媽媽大聲地說 （好像那小朋友聽不到一樣）：「哇！你仔仔好肥窩！手臂仲粗過你！」（然後伸手摸他的臉跟肚子）。我看到那個小朋友很失落，只是裝作沒關係的繼續玩玩具。小朋友的媽媽也感覺很尷尬，立刻抱著兒子親一口。看到小朋友那麼不開心，我也嘗試幫他挽回一點尊嚴，說，「不是啊，他還是那麼可愛和靚仔！還十分愛運動！ 」。人生有那麼多重要的事，為甚麼要第一句就批判比人的外表呢？為甚麼不關心一下人家工作/家人/今天過得開心嗎？ 我們人與人之間的對話務必要那麼膚淺嗎？
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Food for thought:
Don't know when it became socially acceptable for people to start conversations by commenting on weight gain or loss. Being in my industry, I hear comments all the time about myself (not saying that's OK either). However, yesterday, I witnessed an "Auntie" commenting on a little kid (around 10 years old) on how fat he was and how big is belly is (and then proceed to touch is belly and cheeks). Since when was that a kind gesture or a cute hello? It can be damaging to a kid's self esteem in so many ways. I immediately endeavored to rescue a bit of the kid's shattered dignity by complimenting him on how athletic he was (he was doing jumping Jack's at the time). There are better conversation starters than that. Shoutout to all of you who have been emotionally abused like that before! Stay strong! Their opinions don't matter. Smile on! 💪
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"Seasons of Love" wedding video/selfie captured our fun, loving and exciting traveling moments through all 4 seasons. (Four seasons wedding shoot) Before tying the knot, we endeavored to create this project across four seasons while still being mostly apart during our cross pacific long distance relationship. Little did we know that we would fly 2,000 feet in air, travel upstream in meadow, walk on desert in dry canyon and ride down the snowy slopes with a beautiful lake in sight, let alone doing them all in our wedding outfits. In addition to all the videos we took, we learned more about each other and grew even closer than we ever imagined through each endearing trip.

With love, we produced a memorable video that we can truly call our own and reminisce for years to come. This video is dedicated to us in our 40s, 60s, and 80s.

即將步入禮堂的我們，雖總一直在台灣和北美洲遠距離的狀態，卻也從未停止一起冒險。我們共同完成充滿回憶的婚紗攝影，也準備好攜手邁向下一個階段。人生總是充滿驚喜，從來沒想過我們竟會穿著婚紗和西裝，搭乘2000英呎高的熱氣球、穿越大草原、橫跨沙漠與峽谷、還有看著美麗的高山湖滑雪。我們用熱情捕捉每一刻，更在每一次的旅程中擁抱最真實的彼此。

藉此將最珍貴的回憶，送給未來的我們，不論40歲、60歲或80歲，都還要一起手牽手旅行，細細品嚐人生的每一段旅程。

Music used: Love Someone - Jason Mraz, Happy - Pharrell Williams
Film location: Napa Valley, Yosemite National Park, Grand Canyon National Park, South Lake Tahoe (Heavenly Ski Resort)
Film state: California, Neveda and Arizona

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