❚ #englishbelow 吵架王的節奏 - 從我有生命以來都很愛跟別人吵架😅 但年紀越大就發現 爭執便像所羅門王辦的那件搶嬰兒的案子 真正的母親不會強拉嬰兒的手臂只為了搶贏 - 吵架的原因千百種 但我這幾天認知到一個很經典的 — 【恐懼】 - 子女叛逆父母會害怕的「擔心」 伴侶跟其他異性關係太靠近會害怕的「失去」 還有其他種種的如： 「害怕不被理解」 「害怕被發現不夠有自信」 「害怕仰賴維生的重心被抽離」 「害怕自己被丟下」 - 有時候這種恐懼很深層 必須與對方一直棄而不捨般地溝通 才能逐漸挖掘到心裡真正的感受 要是一個不懂得問 一個不願意釐清自己和打開心房 就可能會錯過彼此溝通與相互理解達到共鳴的時間點 - 總之 三天自我梳理的節奏大概是： 1、【整合出現的理由】 2、【交會出原因並了解自己為何有所恐懼】 3、【向對方坦承恐懼】 4、【選擇是否抓住這次機會突破恐懼】 5、【彼此制定妥協原則+擁抱和好】 - 於是乎 我在「了解自己」這件事上又升等了 吵架王在毫無預警的情況下光榮退隱🏆 - - - Steps of being Master of fighting. - I have been in love with fighting with others since I was born😅 But the older I become, fighting is no longer about winning but caring for the other person. Like the case judged by King Solomon about two mothers fighting for the baby - the real one would never pull the baby’s arm just for getting it. - There are thousands of reasons why people have fights. I have realized a typical type - FEAR. - Parents have fears about worrying their teenage children, or people have fears about losing their partners. And some others: “ fears of not being understood“, “ fears of being discovered that lacking self confidence“, “fears of being dumped”, and etc. - Sometimes your fear is hidden deeply. You have to give on communicate back and forth to dig it out with the person you’re having fight with. You may miss the timing to understand and compromise with each other if one doesn’t know how to ask questions and the other is not willing to open up the mind and clarify himself. - Anyway, I took these steps within 3 days to upgrade my knowledge of knowing myself over a fight: 1. [ List out all the reasons you mention ] 2. [ Cross over the reasons and get to know if you’re fearing for something and what that would be ] 3. [ To admit your fear to the other person ] 4. [ Choose whether you’re going take the chance to break through your own fear ] 5. [ Compromise and tailor the rules for the next time just in case, and hug and reconcile would be the happy ending ] - As you may notice, I have already retired from the position - Master of Fighting.🏆 - - - #shanghai #masteroffighting #caringforeachother #communicationiskey #donotgiveup #facethefear #圖文不符 #上海 #吵架王 #認清自己 #突破恐懼

Yesterday’s #LunchbagOTD. Makan nasi seperti biasa. Most days mesti nasi. Yesterday we had taugeh. Sebab mummy beli taugeh banyak gila. Taugehther we finish them all. And also teriyaki chicken cooked in TM6. _ OK. Time for the honest rambling again. Teriyaki chicken ni sejenis dish yang simple sangat and usually takes me 15 minutes je siap semua. Tapi sebab guna machine, jadi meleret-leret. So nope. This dish, don’t TM6-ed it. Bring your kuali out. At least, this is for my future reference. _ I dumped my kuali in the dishwasher after I cook. It’s simpler to cook on the stovetop, dish like this.

早安，利用午休時間來背5個單字吧! 【劍橋辭典例句參考】 90 percent of American rubbish is dumped in landfill sites. 美國90%的垃圾都是傾倒進垃圾掩埋場。 I forgot to put the rubbish out this morning. 我今天早晨忘了把垃圾拿出去讓人收走。 #看ig學英文 � #英文 #英文筆記 #英文單字 #english