💗 #文末贈書 💗 #抓狂父母拯救計畫 🤯
有幸受邀撰寫 王宥忻財富女神 新書推薦序👍
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📣#教養， #沒有標準答案

我是兒科醫師，也是兩個小孩的爸爸，在小孩成長疾病照護方面雖然得心應手，但在教養小孩的路上倒是遇到很多困難與碰撞😰

因為每個父母都是生完小孩才開始學習做父母，而且教養不像教課書一樣，是沒有標準答案的，依照小孩個性和父母價值觀、家庭背景不同而有所不同

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如 #正向教養(Positive Discipline)的作者Jane Nelson說：「 #只要在教養孩子過程中， #感覺到痛苦， #就代表你的教養方式需要調整了！」💁‍♂️

那需要調整的時候有哪些教養方法可以參考呢？我想廣泛的閱讀以及學習成功人的經驗就是很好的方法

這本書是財富女神王宥忻老師，用她最實際的故事告訴大家好的教養方式，包含各種面向： #生活習慣、 #親子溝通、 #領袖培養…等等，我相信大家看完一定會覺得受益無窮

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分享書中兩個我特別有共鳴的部分就是：「 #負面情緒不用避， #面對、 #處理才是上策」🌟

負面情緒的處理不只是小孩要學習的課題，也是大人必修的學分，我們家女兒有時候和弟弟搶東西或 #爭風吃醋，情緒不好的時候

我們都會跟她說：「妳現在生氣可以，但是可以說說自己為什麼生氣嗎？怎麼做才能讓你不生氣呢？」🧐

並且讓女兒了解父母對兩個寶貝的愛都是平等的👩‍❤️‍👨慢慢引導她 #脫離負面情緒，然後開始冷靜處理問題🧠

比如自己要 #如何和弟弟協調？ #需要大人什麼幫忙？經過每次練習面對處理負面情緒，情緒調節就會更上手，這是很重要且終生受用的技能。💪

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💎「 #言語是有力量的，#它足以設定孩子的人生」書中的這句話我也很喜歡而且要時常提醒自己，曾經有長輩對我女兒說：

「你怎麼和你爸一樣急躁？你怎麼和你媽一樣數學不好？」

老實說誰沒有缺點！把 #負面評價連結到爸媽身上， #一點好處和幫助都沒有

因為每個言語其實都很有力量，它會 #讓小孩深信自己有哪裡不足， #陷入更失敗的氛圍裡😖

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反之，假如我們可以用 #正向的連結：「你和你媽一樣語言都很好耶！你和爸爸一樣方向感不錯喔！」

其實小孩會 #感覺備受肯定，把自己的特質發揮得更淋漓盡致，就向「#吸引力法則」一樣， #正念的行為模式也會引發出正向的結果。🦄

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最後真的誠摯推薦大家閱讀「 #抓狂父母拯救計畫」每個主題觀念都有作業可以練習，讓家屬可以從練習中直接改變與小孩的互動方式。千萬不要小看這練習，這會是開啟你與小孩 #良性互動的金鑰匙

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陶山
來吧來吧🤗

陶山是一位知名的华语流行乐制作人，知名作品有陈芳语的【爱你】，谢和弦和王诗安的【爱不需要装乖】，林宥嘉的【感同身受】等等。在西雅图长大的陶山因为一首莫文蔚和柯有伦的 [爱死你]而来到台湾，开始为这里的音乐圈写歌与制作。今天的陶山因为写过许多金曲已是圈子里有口碑的金牌制作人，也为这事你啊来的华语流行音乐产业丰富许多。最近，他对音乐的热情被导入他新的音乐品牌SKR Music， 透过这个品牌他希望能够让更多好艺人，好的华语音乐被更多人看到。

适用人群：
• 对音乐行业有兴趣的社会各界人士，音乐背景不限。

时间：22/5/2019 - 24/5/2019
（星期三至星期五）

大师级音乐课室系列
Skot Suyama 陶山 Vocal
Production Master Workshop

Master Bio:

Skot Suyama 陶山 is a Mandopop record producer best known for penning hit tracks such as Kimberley Chen’s 爱你, R-Chord’s 爱不需要装乖, Yoga Lin’s 感同身受 and many more. Born in Seattle and of Japanese-American ancestry, he came to Taiwan after the success of his first song, Karen Mok and Alan Kuo’s ‘爱死你’ which kickstarted his interest and contributions to the Mandopop scene at large. A well-respected veteran producer within the industry for his ability to write hit songs, Skot has been a direct contributor to many representative works of the contemporary Mandopop scene over the last decade. In the last few years, his passion has led him to start his own record label SKR Music, under which he hopes to hone artistically-sound artists and music which bring Mandopop to the wider world.

Master Workshop Duration: 3 days

1. What is Vocal Production?
What does a vocal producer do?
2. Gear basics. Mic, Pre-Amp, EQ, Compressor
3. Setting up the Pro-Tools session, getting ready for the artist
4. Meeting the artist: getting to know what kind of artist they are, and the psychology of recording an artist. The mental and psychological aspects of a singer
- When to push
- When to listen
- How to read a singer and what they really mean when they complain
- How to get the arrangement super comfortable in the headphones, and balance the reverb, and delay so that the singer can give you their best performance
- The ‘groove’ of a recording session
- How much ‘pre-roll’ to give
- How much time to give between takes for the singer to res their voice
- The different backgrounds of singers and how that effects the recording technique. For example, Singers that developed their skills from Karaoke or singing competitions often like to sing the entire song through to get the right emotion for each part. Singer Songwriter or demo singers who have a recording background usually prefer to go part by part, etc. While seasoned veteran singers may prefer to speed through a recording session either because they’re busy and need to go to their next engagement, or because they already know the power of the computer and vocal editing.
- How long should you chat with a singer before recording? Get to know them and start building trust before you even press record.
- How to keep the singers confidence always high, so you can get the best performance out of them.
- When to make a comment, and when to just let the singer keep singing. What happens to the singer’s confidence when you give a negative comment like ‘You’re out of tune’, or ‘you’re rushing’ etc.
- When to show the artist another way of singing a certain line. And when to give up on your idea.
- How to create a bond with the singer in very short amount of time, so that you both are on the same team and both doing your best for the song

Skill Sharing course:
1. Recording the artist and selecting takes, different approaches to recording the song

2. Finding harmonies, and recording harmonies. Going in depth with many examples. How to find the 3rd, and the 5th harmonies and how to adjust them according to what the chords are playing behind. How many tracks to record, and how to pan them. Example pro-tools sessions : (王艳薇)天使亲吻过的声音, (王艳薇)框不住的爱

3. Adding ad-libs. Showing examples of when the ad-libs are too much, or in the wrong place. Showing the corrected examples. Example pro-tools sessions : (王艳薇)天使亲吻过的声音, (陈忻玥)Just You and Me,

4. Tuning vocals. Bring in a session and show them step by step how I tune vocals in all of my vocal productions. Example pro-tools session : (陈忻玥)Nobody Ever Wonders, (王艳薇)天使亲吻过的声音

5. Adjusting the timing of vocals / Aligning vocals. Show step by step using previous pro-tools sessions of songs that I’ve created. How to edit the timing of rap vocals. Example pro-tools session : (陈忻玥)Just You and Me, (李杰明)神秘

6. Trouble Shooting Vocal Editing. Get rids of pops and clicks, and bad cross fades. Show examples of each, and how to solve common vocal editing problems. Example pro-tools session : (傅又宣)Better This Way Unplugged

每晚7点至11点
地址：Livehouse @Lion Studio
115B Commonwealth Drive
Singapore 149597

课时：共12小时 (3节课，每节课4小时，英文再加一点点外国人华文授课）

费用：S$550新元/-

网上报名：http://Skot.peatix.com
咨询：+65 81800537 或 contact@livehouse.sg

(备注：报名者需预付200元订金*，此金额将从总费用中扣除。余下金额（例: S$550新元-S$200新元= S$350新元）
直接支付于Livehouse Pte Ltd
咨询方式：+65 81800537
或 contact@livehouse.sg

Date : 22nd-24th May 2019
( Wednesday- Friday)
Time: 7pm-11pm

Total No. of Hours: 12Hrs
(4Hrs x 3 lesson conducted in English )

(Note: Register here with S$200 deposit*, which will be deducted from the total fees. The rest amount (e.g. S$550-S$200= S$350/-) is directly payable to Livehouse before workshop commences.)
Contact +65 81800537or email to contact@livehouse.sg for enquiries.

* The S$200/- Deposit is non-refundable in the event that the attendee wishes to withdraw from the workshop on day of commencement!

由22K 開始的人生，看不到希望嗎？
只有四位數字的戶頭，可能造就富豪傳奇嗎？
你，還在害怕未來不知道該如何走下去嗎？
心靈財富女神告訴你，
只要你敢要，你就一定能得到。
她，一個沒有任何背景的弱女子，
18 歲，家中破產，住的地方被查封；
19 歲，要打五份工才有錢念書；
22 歲，已經年收入破百萬；
28 歲，擁有22 間房地產；
30 歲，資產已經破億，擁有財富自由。
這是心靈財富女神王宥忻的故事，
也可以是你的故事。
她怎麼做到的？
如果她能做到，
你，也一定可以做到！